Showing posts with label Law Of Attraction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Law Of Attraction. Show all posts

Monday, November 22, 2010

Manifesting My Heart's Desires

For a long time I have been reading self-development books.  I started reading these books when I was 21, I had just finished university - this is when my real education began - stepping out into the world - LIFE!  And in the last 10 years of my life I have experienced many HUGE life lessons - and I am still learning - learning everyday.

Like many people I enjoyed 'The Secret' - I read the book 4 years ago, I watched the dvd, I listened to the CDs.  I read it and thought that it sounded like a great idea - and yet it has only been in recent months that I have been a lot more focused on developing the skills of Manifesting My Heart's Desires.

A few months ago I had a wonderful conversation with a friend from the Clinic where I work - she is a Master of Manifestation.  It was around this time that I set the intention to bring my Magician Archetype onto the Stage in my life - I started this Process of learning Manifestation by Manifesting my Magician - by consciously inviting this Part of me to be more present in my life.


I started to read the great book  'Ask and It Is Given’ Esther and Jerry Hicks - this was a great book for me to read - I learnt a lot.  This book has so many wonderful words of wisdom, including:
- "... you came from a Source of love and well-being.  When you're matched up to that energy of peace and love, you then regain the power of your Source - that being the power to manifest your desires, to summon well-being, to attract abundance where scarcity previously resided, and to access Divine guidance in the form of the right people and the precisely correct circumstances."
- "there is nothing that you cannot be, do, or have"

The book talks about being in the right vibration - "The reason you have not already gotten what you desire is because you are holding yourself in a vibrational holding pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire."  Now this is a key part of what I read "Whatever you are giving your attention to causes you to emit a vibration, and the vibrations that you offer equal your asking, which equals your point of attraction.  If there is something you desire that you currently do not have, you need only put your attention upon it, and by the Law Of Attraction, it will come to you, for as you think about this thing or experience that you desire, you offer a vibration, and then, by Law, that very thing or experience must come to you.  However, if there is something that you desire that you currently do not have, and you put your attention upon your current state of not having it, then Law Of Attraction will continue to match that not having it vibration, so you will continue to not have that what you desire.  It is Law."

"Sometimes a person will say 'I'm not happy over here where I'm standing.  I would much rather be over there - over there where my body is not sick, or over there where I'm not overweight, or over there where I have more money or a better relationship'... We then explain that it is important to talk about what is believed to be 'over there' and try to find the feeling-place of what's 'over there'."

Since inviting my Magician on the Stage in my life I have been so Excited and Thankful for so many wonderful Gifts from God and the Universe.  There have been so many examples in my life recently of where I have been putting thoughts and desires out into the Universe and if by magic, so many things are appearing for me.  Recently, I had many thoughts about looking for Meditation Resources and Scripts and was Excited when one of the other girls from where I work, was talking about a great author and I looked at the books and found some great Meditation Scripts including one on building Self-Esteem, which a big area of interest for me, in terms of working with Clients.  I was also saying to My Man that we didn't have a song and it would be great to have our own song that we love - and I forgot about it (rather than searching for one) - and then one day when getting ready for work, they had a guest performance on 'Sunrise' and I loved the song - I showed My Man the 'youtube' clip - we found our song!

Just the other day I was planning to go to 'Peter Alexander' in the city (didn't have enough time in the end) and then the next day I was shopping locally and I was just about to leave and then felt Inspired to go a certain way in the Shopping Centre.  And then I was so surprised to see this new 'Peter Alexander' store - and I bought this great new pink and yellow nightie - my favourite colours, and even having yellow wattle on the nightie, I love wattle.

And a big one for me was when I put it out there that I would like to earn around $300 more per week and  I put it out there that I would be happy to take on more responsibility at work - within a few days a position was advertised at work, I applied and I was offered the job.  The great part of this job is that I will be able to bring more Coaching into the workplace.  And with some other opportunities I will be earning the extra money that I put out there to the Universe.

Also once I changed my vibration to being so Grateful and Excited about my current Clients with a trust that more Clients will continue to come to my Business, rather than focusing on the lack of a full diary of appointments, my Coaching Business has been building and I have been attracting new Clients - which I love!

Of course there is always the times when you think of someone you want to talk to or see and then you see them.  It can also work against you - I was talking at College about an ex-partner and all of the stress that it caused me - I really remembered the emotion of this chain of events - and to my surprise, I was checking my phone in the break and at the same time I received a call from this man - someone that would be unlikely to call me on a Saturday and who I hadn't spoken to in over 6 months.

I have learnt now to Consiously choose my thoughts and choose my vibration.

So how does it work - I am still learning and experiencing the power of Manifesting My Heart's Desires - I am not an expert - in fact that is why I have included so many great words of wisdom from 'Ask and It Is Given’ Esther and Jerry Hicks.  I do believe that in sending out the energy of what we desire, this connects with other energy in the Universe and draws that to us.  Likewise if someone sends something out to the Universe, this can also draw us in - like when people say "your ears must be burning" if someone is talking about you. - or just the other day I had the thought that I wanted to hear from my friend, and then realised that they had sent me an email - perhaps them sending out the energy, attracted in my thoughts.

I also believe that when we are very clear about what we want, the Universe, our Angels, God will bring opportunities into our awareness, send messages to us via our intuition.  I also love the Reticular Activating System in our brain - an example of the Reticular Activating System is when we buy a certain type of car or want a certain type of car, and then all of a sudden we see this car everywhere on the road - it has probably always been there - and now this is filtering through to our awareness.

When we are clear about what we want, and when we are totally relaxed and in the flow, we are going to notice and be drawn to that which we desire.

For me I have been practicing Manifesting My Heart's Desires by:
- being clear in what I want, consciously putting an order into the Universe
- feeling into the vibration - being positive and Grateful for all of the positive in my life and in this area of my life (a good step here is to use Visualisation and Imagination)
- letting go of the attachment to the outcome and having TRUST - I recently read about the Law of Detachment - “in order to acquire anything in the physical Universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it” - it is all about TRUST - what is TRUST? TRUST - To Rely Unto Spirit Totally (I love this acronym - a great reminder to me).

I love this analogy that my friend shared with me about TRUST - which helps me a lot when Manifesting My Heart's Desires.  Consider you are at a restaurant with a friend and you look at the menu – there are a lot of nice things – you decide what you want – you order the fish – the trick is to TRUST that the fish is being prepared and will be delivered to you – and so you enjoy conversation and be PRESENT IN THE NOW with your friend (rather than sitting there wondering when it is going to arrive, asking the waiter when it will be here, thinking about it a lot, talking about it with your friend about when is the fish going to arrive) – the fish will come.

I love that 'Ask and It Is Given' talks about having your own unique desires and preferences and from this place, as we are unique, there is abundance for us all - once again we can just TRUST.

ANOTHER VERY IMPORTANT BELIEF FOR ME is that I am also conscious that my Magician cannot work alone - I need all Parts of me to allow my Dreams to come true - other Parts of me such as my  Destroyer (to let go of what does not serve me), my Organiser (to help me with my Priorities), my Sage (wisdom for and from my Highest Self), my Creator (Action from Intuition).  My Innocence is very important, helping me work out what I truly want, what is at the Heart for me.   It is also important that I invite in my Caregiver to listen to and look after my Innocence, and also consciously bring in the presence of my Warrior to defend my Innocence and stand up for my Truth (and overcome any fears or doubts).


I imagine all of these Parts of me dancing together in Celebration as I live my Vision.


Sunday, November 7, 2010

Living Your Dreams

I love books.  I love reading.  I have been reading self-development and spiritual books since I was 21.  I remember I had just finished my degree, I had a great job in the city and I had just broken up from my boyfriend of 4 years.  I had spent 3 years reading text books, read a novel over the Christmas holidays and then I discovered a love of reading these life changing books.  This is where my boyfriend and I were different, he did not share my passion for personal development.

Of course, I wish I had have put everything I learnt into action - as I have stumbled and made many mistakes.  I often laugh that I did a course on decision making and yet over the last 20 years, I  have made (what seems) many bad decisions - and yet this has been my life journey.  And it is my life journey that gives me such deep empathy and compassion for my Clients. 

It is my commitment to lifelong learning and also my life journey that serves me now as I am stepping out in the world as a Life Coach.  I love reading books that will continually enrich my knowledge and it is my commitment to apply what I am learning to my own life and also help me in serving my Clients.

Among the books that I am currently reading (and loving), is 'Living Your Dreams' by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen - a brilliant book!  I love the Inscription on the first page of the book - “We dedicate this book to everyone who has had the courage and commitment to pursue their most heartfelt dreams with passion and perseverance.  By your example you have shown the rest of us that whatever you desire, believe in, and pursue with love, joy and determination is possible to achieve.”


I was given this book to my friend in November 2003 - inside the books is a message from my friend "Dear Kath, Go For It!"  This was given to me when I was leaving a Marketing Job – deciding I wanted to move out of the corporate world and move away from working on products to working with people.  This was 7 years ago - the magic number 7.

I just love the beginning of the book - it talks about "How To Live Your Dream" and gives 10 Steps - many of which are explored in the Coaching Process:
- Step 1. Decide What You Want - "You must first decide WHAT you want, before your brain can figure out HOW to get it."  I really love "The Genie in the Lamp" where you can imagine that a Genie appears before you and grants you three wishes in all of the key areas of your life.

- Step 2. Believe in Yourself: Use Positive Self-Talk - "Eliminate any negative and limiting belief, learn to control your self-talk, and maintain a constant state of positive expectations."  This is a big area in Coaching, helping Clients let go of their inner critic and help Clients embrace new and positive beliefs and attitudes.

- Step 3. Build on Your Core Genius - I LOVE THIS PART, I love these words - "Everyone is born with a unique set of talents and abilities - what we refer to as your areas of brilliance or your core genius." - I really love working with people in finding their life purpose and to express their unique gifts in the world.

- Step 4. Build an Awesome Dream Team Alliance - "A Dream Team Alliance is two or more individuals who voluntarily come together to creatively put their energy behind a definite purpose." - I definitely believe in the power of the Dream Teams and I will be offering Group Coaching opportunities next year.  Now that I am newly engaged I am also Excited to create a Dream Team with My Man, especially now as we are planning our wedding and our life together

- Step 5. Visualise and Affirm Your Desired Outcomes - I love what is written in the book about Visualisation - "Visualisation activates your creative subconscious, which will start generating creative ideas to help you achieve your goal; Visualisation programs your brain to more readily perceive and recognise the resources you will need to achieve your Dreams; Visualisation activates the Law Of Attraction, thereby drawing into your life the people, resources and circumstances you will need to achieve your Goals; Visualisation builds your internal motivation to take the necessary actions needed to accomplish your Dreams."  I am really Excited that I will be running Vision Board Workshops from January 2011 which are designed to help Clients create a Visual representation of their Dreams.

- Step 6. Act to Create It - This part of the book reinforces the importance of taking ACTION - "We recommend making the commitment to do something every day in at least three different areas of your life that moves you in the direction of your Dreams."  I also like the part that states "One of the secrets of success is to start acting like a success before you are one.  Act as if."

- Step 7. Respond to Feedback - I like the reference to Thomas Edison "reported to have tried more than two thousand different experiments that failed before he finally got the light bulb to work" - "If you can adopt that attitude, then you can be free to take an action, notice what result you get, and then adjust your next actions based on the feedback you get."  The book encourages readers to - Ask others for feedback, ask yourself for feedback, ask your higher self, your inner wisdom for guidance and feedback.  One of my favourite parts of Coaching is helping Clients access and trust their own answers and insights.

- Step 8. Never Give Up: The Power of Determination - "After taking ACTION, the most important quality you will need to develop in order to live your Dreams is persistence.  You must be persistent in your disciplines and habits; perseverant in the face of adversity, hardship and challenge; and determined to achieve your dreams no matter what."  Working with a Coach can offer you support during these challenging times, helping you overcome any obstacles and staying true to yourself and your Dreams.

- Step 9.  Celebrate Your Victories and Give Thanks -  I really love working with Clients to acknowledge and celebrate their Wins.  I also love that the book talks about having an "Attitude of Gratitude" and rewarding our inner child (yes, I must book a massage this week - planning an hour and a half luxury massage in my last week of College to reward myself).

- Step 10. Give Something Back - "The best way to ensure an ongoing flow of abundance into your life is to share with others the wealth you receive."  I also believe in helping others who are less fortunate than ourselves.  I am passionate about helping children and communities living in poverty, with $5 from every Coaching Session donated to Plan Australia http://www.plan.org.au/

I love quotes - here is a great quote from 'Living Your Dreams' -
"Take the first step in faith.
You don't have to see the whole staircase.

Just take the first step."
Martin Luther King Jr.


Monday, September 27, 2010

Opportunity For Self-Reflection

Over the last couple of months, I have been enjoying the Opportunity For Self-Reflection.  This has been a recommendation as part of my Life Coaching Professional Training and it has been life changing for me.  I feel that I have learnt so much about my Self and that I am now so in touch with my Inner Strengths and Resources.  I have found Peace.  My Journey is only just beginning and I am Excited. 

MY YELLOW HEART
Initially my Self-Reflection was about observing where I spend my time - in my Mind, Feelings or Body.  I quickly realised that I was spending a lot of time thinking, a lot of time overthinking.  In my Mind I was thinking about the Past and the Future, thinking about things I couldn't change, thinking about what I did and didn't like about work - just thinking, thinking, thinking.  NOW I am excited that I am able to bring myself into the NOW - to be fully Present - I am not in thinking mode, or feeling mode, I am in a neutral, relaxed position.  My Touchstone, my symbol of this Presence, is My Yellow Heart.  I have a sense that My Yellow Heart is my Soul's Home.  It is a place of Love, Light, Peace and Truth.  It is a resting place.  I feel myself totally relaxed in my Body, totally Present.  When I am sitting with my Clients I am in My Yellow Heart - totally Present, creating a Sacred Space.


When I reflect on my Coaching Business logo, and what my work is about for my Clients, I feel that I am able to experience the essence of my logo - where I am sitting in a relaxed place, in My Yellow Heart, and then from this place I will naturally bring my Yin and Yang into the Coaching Space.


I find that I am no longer wasting energy thinking about my Past or what is not within my control.  I find that I am more at Peace.  I find that I have an Inner Strength that supports me.  If I find myself going back into an old pattern of worrying or thinking, I imagine a STOP sign and with the image of My Yellow Heart, I am able to come back to the Present moment.


Or if I am drawn back to the Past, I bring in the image of boxes all packed up and come back to the NOW.  I bring in the images of the boxes if I start thinking about my Past, wasting mental energy - in this way I am able to see that these memories are in the Past, the boxes are closed and stacked away.


And if I look at my Past from a Spiritual perspective, I am able to see that all of my experiences are part of who I am and my Journey.  My Past experiences have motivated me to become a Coach and a Healer.  From this perspective, when I do turn to my Past, I feel that all my stories and life experiences are like books in a bookshelf.  As books in the bookshelf I am able to open and close them and certainly refer to the lessons to help me in my life.  My life experience also gives me an incredible sense of Compassion for my Clients.

 
In My Yellow Heart I feel Love and Light, I am Presence, I am in the NOW.  In this place I am able to hear the whisper of my Soul's longing and feel the rising of Spirit in my Self and my Life.

Being in Presence has been very important to me, especially with all of the ups and downs and swings and roundabouts in my life.  When I am Present, I also have a sense of Trust that all will be okay, that I have the Strength within me.


MY ARCHETYPES
I have also loved the Opportunity For Self-Reflection to get to know my Archetypes - I have loved this Opportunity.  I have found that there is so much Power and Strength in knowing all of these Parts of me and choosing how they show up in my life and when to bring them on the Stage in my life.


I have also found, that these different Parts of me, naturally emerge when I am in my Presence, totally Present in My Yellow Heart, when I am living in the Now.

I have enjoyed Art Therapy, sketching and colouring with my crayons and pencils.  I have enjoyed walks in Nature.  I have enjoyed being a Client and working with my Coach.  I have enjoyed Meditation.  I especially loved the 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation where I was able to be a witness and interact with my Archetypes.  I have also enjoyed reading about the different Archetypes and selecting images that resonate for me.  While I have been researching the Archetypes, I am not sitting in a place of trying to understand the theory - instead, I am really sitting into the truth of what this is for me, and with a curiosity of what is possible from this Part of my Self.

I loved getting to know my Yin and Yang and now I am loving getting to know my Archetypes which have both Yin and Yang in them.  I feel that when I am in tune with my Yin Intuition, my 'gut feel', I am able to get my Yang to speak and act for the Highest Good.  I am still learning about these Parts of me and I am enjoying getting to know My Sage, Nature Child, Innocent Child, Caretaker, Regular Gal, Wanderer, Warrior, Jester, Destroyer, Organiser, Creator, Magician, Visionary, Lover, Healer.    



My Sage
I have a strong sense of My Sage - My Wise Self.  In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation I imagined meeting My Sage.  My Sage stood right next to me, the Observer part of me.  My Sage is glowing and full of Light.  I feel energised in her Presence.  My Sage tells me "I am here, I am always here".  My Sage is connected to the Love and Light of the Universe.  I am Grateful to find this Part of me to be so Resourceful and Helpful.  I draw on My Sage to Guide me.  My Intent is to draw on the Wisdom of My Sage and speak and act more often from this Part of me. 


There is the question of what is the new belief that is true for me?  Looking at the Shadow of The Sage, perhaps the belief in me was that I had to know everything, or find the answer outside of my Self - however, now I am learning that My Sage is connected to God, Inspired by Spirit and I can draw on Universal Wisdom.  From this place, I can Trust my Self, rather than searching for the answers outside of my Self.   


My Caregiver
In the last few months I have spent a lot of time in My Caregiver Archetype.  I am learning a lot about My Caregiver Part of my Self.  I naturally move into a Caregiver with my Nieces and my Parents and My Man and my Brother.  There are many positives of My Caregiver in that I am loving and caring and helpful and want to take away the pain of my Family.  In terms of images, I felt that this was My Caregiver - a traditional image of a Mother and Child.  What I am learning is that this Caregiver image can best serve me and encourage me to look after my own vulnerable child within - making sure I make Self-Care a Priority.  My Caregiver is learning to balance Self-Care with Care for others.


And in my Self-Reflection I am realising that I need to also evolve the essence of My Caregiver - moving away from coming across as the Parent of my Nieces, Brother, Parents or My Man.  And so I am Consciously shifting My Caregiver Part of me.  By being a Witness to my Self, I am learning that I need to be there for my Family and offer help and yet I need to remember the words "I am I, You are You".  With my Family, especially my Brother and my Parents I need to communicate from a place of Sacred Space and Trust my Family - not try to be the Parent.  I need to Trust that we are all on our own separate Journey and allow us each the Space to walk our Path.  I need to Consciously tune into My Sage to help me with My Caregiver Role as it can be challenging when I have Parents who are not well and I am wanting my Brother to be different in his Caregiver role - and of course this is outside my control - and I need to respect Boundaries.  In particular I believe that My Sage and My Caretaker can work together for the Greatest Good.   


I also sense that in My Caregiver Part of me I can offer the sense of holding hands with those I love and looking out in the same direction - looking at shared objectives and facing the future together.  This is one of my most challenging parts of my Journey right now - and I am Consciously trying to move away from the belief that "I need to be in the boat with you and I give my advice because I care" to "I am here for you and I respect your choices".  I feel that I can Consciously bring My Healer energy into my personal relationships to join together with My Caregiver.


When I feel drawn to work with children and communities living in poverty, I also feel a Call to My Caregiver Part of me.  I am not sure where this Call will lead me, although I know that one day I would love to visit and work with these communities.  For now, I am glad that we sponsor a little girl in Laos.  I am also committed to donate $5 every Coaching Session to Plan Australia, who is committed to helping empower children and communities to create a positive future.  I am drawn to images of Princess Diana and her charity work.


The other night I was watching a segment on ABC about the disaster in Pakistan, it breaks my heart seeing these people who have lost everything, babies are sick and families are hungry.  It is heartbreaking seeing a mother losing her baby.  We live in a world of consumerism, people wanting bigger TVs and jewellery and fancy clothes and cars and these children don't have food.   What is going on with this world?  Time to donate money.  My Man and I donated money to help bring food and relief to families in Pakistan.  I would like to do more.  There is something that is definitely resonating for me.  It was interesting when I reviewed my Family of Origin and Family Tree last year as part of my Counselling Certificate where I found that there was a Christian Missionary in my Family.  If I was younger now and not so keen to start my own Family, I would definitely be travelling to work in third world countries.  And for now I will continue to be aware and do what I can in terms of contribution.  


My Healer
I love My Healer Archetype - a Part of me that I have discovered since becoming a Coach.  In My Healer I can hold a Sacred Space with another, totally in my Presence.  I feel a Connection Heart to Heart.  When I was reading 'The Four-Fold Way' by Angeles Arrien, I loved reading about the Healer "Effective Healers from any culture are those who extend the arms of love: acknowledgement, acceptance, recognition, validation and gratitude."  One of my favourite parts of being a Coach is acknowledging my Client's Beauty and Strengths, acknowledging the Light within my Client, seeing my Client's Uniqueness and Greatness.  I ask God and the Universe that I can Love and Serve by being a Channel for Divine Energy - in my Coaching, I call on the Power of Spirit and my Angels to help me in my work as a Healer.  I feel the message of My Healer is "I Am Here to Heal with My Heart".


Similar to My Sage, it is exciting to move away from a belief that I have to know everything or have everything prepared and organised - instead, I can Trust that I am here to Serve and I can relax in the mystery and spaciousness and Trust I will be filled with Spirit.  My Healer energy also moves me away from having to be in my mind and always thinking, or self-conscious of having to get the right words, to a place of genuine, Heart to Heart Connection.


My Regular Gal
In my Regular Gal Archetype I feel that I can easily relax in this Part of me - there is no pressure to play a Role or perform, or try to fit in.  It is where I am just one of the Staff at work, or among Friends or Family.  In this Part of me I can enjoy a sense of belonging to the group, by being relaxed in my Self.  In this place I can stand in a belief that we are all the same - that we are all human, that we are not perfect, that we all have triumphs and we all have pain.  This Part of me believes that everyone is of value and deserves to be valued.  And I can hold the Paradox that we are all the same and that we all have our own Uniqueness and Greatness.  My Regular Gal, My Healer and My Sage can work together with a desire for Connection for the Highest Good.    



My Organiser
It has been great for me to Consciously bring My Organiser into the Stage of my life.  I have found that I often create clutter in my study and kitchen.  I can get enthusiastic and excited and so I bring in paperwork and my "things" and find that I don't always have places for all my "stuff".  My Man and I have moved in together and so between us we have combined our "stuff" in a combined Space - and yet this is not a reason or excuse.  I also find myself getting stuck sometimes, I organise for a while and then lose momentum.  In working with the different Parts of me I found a Sub-Personality that was almost keeping me stuck in the Past, it was the Part of me that was always searching and looking for my Path which would mean that I would continually have paperwork and moving from Project to Project.  And then My Sage comes in and guides me to see that I have found my lifework and I can therefore simplify my life and my home.  I have been working with My Organiser and I feel that there is so much potential for this Part of me to find a place for everything.  I also want to bring in My Organiser to help me with my time management and organising my Priorities - although I definitely want to ensure that there is Space for Spontaneity - just to follow my Heart and go with the flow.


I also feel that My Organiser is very hands on and physically active in getting things "done".  I definitely need to bring in the essence of both of these as I organise my study, my superannuation, my Spring clean and my garage sale - projects that are important to me.



In terms of My Organiser I feel that I am moving away from a belief of "I can't" to a new belief of "I can".  I always believed that it was my personality type that does create clutter in my home and study - now I am choosing a new belief of "I can choose to get organised and create systems, to create space and simplify".  It can be overwhelming as I have a lot to clear and organise - this is when I bring in my Sub-Personality of My Cheerleader.  My Cheerleader has been an essential part of me - encouraging and cheering me on - helping me to be motivated and focused for my Goals.




My Destroyer
I feel that My Destroyer has been fairly active in the last 2 years - cutting out of my life what is no longer working for me and no longer serving me.  I believe that the energy of My Destroyer will be important in working with My Organiser in some Spring cleaning Projects.  My Destroyer can be very Passionate, working with My Warrior and standing up for what is right and what is no longer relevant or outdated.  I also ask My Destroyer energy in, when I am looking at maintaining a healthy lifestyle, helping me cut out sugar and chocolate, where I would rather be eating healthy all the time (although not wanting the Perfectionist to rule my world).

 


My Lover
I have been getting to know My Lover Archetype at different levels - Love of Self, Love of My Man, Love of what I do, Love of All.  A few months ago I asked My Sage for some guidance in my relationship.  In my Meditation I could see my Future with My Man, a wonderful Future of Love and Ease and Laughter and Dreams coming true.  In the Meditation I was also shown an alternate Future, a life shared with a man from the past - in this Future, I saw myself walking through mud, being in hardship, feeling unloved and me trying to get love from him.  In this Meditation I also saw that I had stayed in that bad relationship for so long since it brought out my Lover and Goddess Archetype, which had not been Present in me for a long time.  I had been so focused on running and living the life of an athlete, and training my Body to be lean and fast, and was strict on myself, that this did not bring out the freedom and joy of being in my Goddess.  And so when I rediscovered this Part of Self, I did not want to let this go - and so I continued in a loveless relationship.  And then I cut this Part of Self off again, perhaps cutting my hair was an act of letting this go within Self.  I am now bringing this Part back in me again.

My Lover loves music and dancing and loves My Man.  My Lover is also discovering the joy of doing what I love, doing what has heart and meaning for me (a new belief) - rather than me trying to do something to attract or please others (which is where I spent years living in the Shadow of the Lover).  I love Shania Twain's music and she reminds me of My Lover Part of me.  In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation, My Lover states "I Am Free, I Am Love".  Yes, I love the idea of freedom.  I definitely felt My Lover emerge when in a moment we decided to go skinny dipping late one night - I felt so free and it was wonderful to just embrace the moment.


And My Lover definitely loves turning off the tv, putting on music and dancing in the living area - life is to be enjoyed, moment to moment.  I am enjoying My Lover being present in my life, this is an energetic and enthusiastic part of me.



My Warrior
I look at the Exceptions, when I have been in My Warrior energy.  One of the recent examples was last year when I stood up for my Self and ended a relationship that was no longer serving me.  I remember feeling so in my Power, feeling so empowered.  There was also another time, when I met with a doctor recently to talk about my Coaching Business, and I also felt in My Warrior - communicating with Passion about my Coaching Business. When I am in My Warrior I feel that I communicate with Clarity and Strength.  I still have more to learn about My Warrior and yet I believe this energy and Part of me is an excellent Resource for my Journey.


I love reading about the Warrior Archetype in 'The Four-Fold Way' by Angeles Arrien and would like to build and strengthen and access the Universal Powers of "Power of Presence, Power of Communication and Power of Position".  I feel Excited that I am now very Present in the NOW.  In terms of Power of Communication, this is an area that I would like to develop further in my life - "Skillful communication means we have aligned content, timing and context".  "Communication that empowers and inspires us is communication that is delivered at the appropriate time and place for the person involved to hear and receive it."  I would like to communicate with more clarity and be succinct, fewer words and making every word count.  It's funny I have always thought that I was an Extravert and yet now I feel that I am enjoying a more inner, Introvert world - where I am feeling less need for words and I am enjoying more silence.  I find that this is allowing My Warrior to emerge when there are important words to be shared with another.  In terms of Power of Position, "The Warrior demonstrates the willingness to take a stand.  This is the capacity to let others know where we stand, where we don't stand, what we stand for, and how we stand up for ourselves." 

I am still working with this Archetype, wanting to be conscious of not bringing in a Shadow part that may speak from a place of anger or that may challenge another and creates conflict - especially with my Brother or in a difficult work situation.  Instead in My Warrior, I want to be able to be assertive and calm in clearly expressing my Truth and allowing others to respond with their Truth.  



My Nature Child
I love that My Nature Child Part of me is out in the Light.  I have been enjoying this Part of me all year.  My Nature Child just loves being out in Nature - I love Walking in the morning, being outdoors, feeling the breeze, listening to the Birds singing, loving the beauty of the flowers, enjoying Connection with Trees.  In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Mediation, when this Part of me comes forth, I notice a quietness and I have a sense that this Part of me has a strong Connection with all.  My Nature Child loves to come out everyday - the problem is, once My Nature Child is out in the world, My Nature Child does not want to go to work in an office.



My new belief in terms of Nature is that I am in Connection with all, and being in Nature is so important to my well-being, it is not just something that I want to do sometimes - being in Nature daily is vital to me.  I am also learning that as I say to God "I am here to serve you today, show me the way", that I am definitely being asked to step up, to show that I am true and authentic.  Just last week, as I am starting out for my Nature walk, very excited that I had an hour to enjoy the outdoors, I see a possum being attacked by a crow.  There were some workers from the school next door and we thought the possum might be dead.  Automatically I went into "save the possum" mode and we worked together as a team to get the possum safely in a box, and ensured the possum was taken to a local vet.  I realised that I never quite know where I will be called to service, and I was glad that it came naturally for me, to help rescue the possum.



My Wanderer
I am enjoying My Wanderer Part of me.  I feel My Wanderer is closely aligned with My Nature Child, enjoying a sense of wonder and freedom.  I love going for my Nature walks in the morning and My Wanderer would be happy to explore all day long.  I have a sense of setting off into the world, like a backpacker on a Journey.


And as I am in the NOW of my Journey I feel that there is so much joy, as if I am in a field of Sunflowers.


In My Wanderer I have a sense that I am on this Journey to discover my own individuality.  I am no longer the Executive or Manager working in a Corporate office.  I am here to live my Purpose to Spread The Yellow.  I am here to Connect Heart to Heart through my Coaching.  I am inviting My Wanderer more into my life where I can trust my Yin, my Intuition and allow my Yang ACTION to take me forward as I express my Individuality and Uniqueness, and help others to also connect to their own Light and Greatness.  I love this image of the Sunflower in the Field of Lavender which captures the essence of my Journey to stand in the sunlight and SHINE as ME.


I am changing my belief, where I would normally need to have the entire plan worked out.  I now have a sense that I need to relax and REALLY enjoy My Wanderer more often, allow my Self to enjoy the freedom, where I am no longer restricted by a corporate career and I CAN just relax more, walk more, be in My Wanderer more and just listen for the whispers of my Soul.  I can celebrate that I have the opportunity to be in My Wanderer.  When I find my Self going into an old pattern of busy, busy, busy, work, work, work, plan, plan, plan - I bring in the opportunity for more space in my day and my life - to allow my Self to be in My Wanderer.  The Shadow of this Part of me also believes that I have to keep searching, searching, searching, looking, looking, looking - and yet in the true essence of My Wanderer, I can just enjoy each day and Trust that as I follow my Intuition, this will lead to the Greatest Good for my Self and all.


I know that My Wanderer, My Visionary, My Creator and My Magician can all work together.



My Visionary
When I am out Walking, when I am not caught up in my thinking, I am conscious of allowing Space for My Visionary.  A long time ago I possibly believed that I had to think about my Future and think up ideas - now I believe that Vision is not of the mind, that it is of Spirit.  Just the other day, when I was out Walking, I had a Vision, the same Vision I have had a few times.  It is a Vision that feels so real, where I am lighting candles, one-by-one, and then those people go and light other candles, and then those people go and light candles, and so many people enjoy Light.  I look back on my very first Art Therapy from the first year of my Coaching Course and this is the image that I also created on paper.  In January this year, in a Meditation, I also had a Vision of me being in a Village, living and working among the community, where I am handing out Yellow pieces of paper.  I was also Gifted with the words 'Spread The Yellow' and I have a knowing that this is definitely my Purpose.  I feel My Visionary Archetype is around me and I would like to be more in touch with her Inspiration.  Most important is to get My Visionary working with My Creator, My Organiser and My Magician.




My Creator
In my Self-Reflection, I am realising that I would like My Creator to be more active in my life.  I feel that My Creator is the key to putting my Dreams into ACTION.  The essence of My Creator is colour, energy, enthusiasm, Light and bright and active.  My Creator is flowing and graceful. 


In my Coaching I am here to help my Clients Create A New Story for their lives.  And so it is important for me that I am active in Creating My Own Story.  I feel that I have the Power within me to write my own Story, not just journaling about the Past or Present - but putting my Vision and Goals down on paper.  I want to write an Exciting Story and make this come true for me.


As well as painting the picture, My Creator is also active in putting all of the pieces together to Create the extraordinary artwork of my life, and bring projects alive.


I recently felt My Creator in action when I designed a competition for my Coaching Business, which has been wonderful in connecting with new Clients.  I followed my Yin Intuition and my Yang made it happen.  In My Creator I definitely want to be maximising the Power of my Yin and Yang to bring my Ideal Life into reality.  Every morning I look at my Vision Board that I have Created and yet I also know that I have to take ACTION and allow My Creator to be active in my life.  In My Creator Archetype I believe that ALL IS POSSIBLE!!!  I have the Power to make my Dreams come true!




My Magician
In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation I am moved to go down a flight of stairs, where I enter a deeper Meditation and through the forest I can see a Light.


I have a sense of My Magician - this is another Part of me that I am inviting to play a bigger part in my life.  I have a sense of my Magician sending out Yellow bubbles of my Dreams and Intent and trusting that these will Manifest for me.  I feel that My Magician is the Part that can become more active in my life - where I am able to activate the power of the 'Law Of Attraction', where I can clarify what I want, and I can send this wish out to the Universe, asking for God and my Angels to help me.


I was very touched recently when a Friend of mine called me 'Magic Girl' and referred a Client to me for Coaching and said that I bring Magic into people's lives.  Hearing these words made my heart sing.  I definitely want to be more in my Magic.


I am enjoying reading 'Everyday Grace' by Marianne Williamson and I am Inspired by her words "Each of us carries, in the depths of our consciousness, a boxful of mystical tools.  And central to our tool kit is the magic wand.  A wand is not just stillness from children's literature.  Fairy tales are rife with Archetypal truths that teach not only children, but open-minded adults as well, deep and fundamental truths about the nature of our reality.  A wand is a medium of power, not just for wizards, but also for you and me.  A wand is essentially a principle, an intention, a focused thought.  When focused thought is negative, it creates ill.  And when focused thought is loving and enlightened, it creates miraculous breakthroughs."


My Jester
My Jester Part of me loves to laugh and have fun.  My Jester likes to play, make jokes and be funny.  I feel My Jester come out at work and at home, living in the moment and lightening the mood for Family, Friends and colleagues.  My Jester loves shaking things up and seeing everyone laughing.


I welcome in My Jester to be more Present in my life.  I love that Humor is one of the Coaching Competencies and I am really Excited that my Jester has just started coming forth in my Coaching, very naturally, and creating lightness and brightness during a Session.  


My Innocent Child
Today in Meditation I found the energy of My Child - the Innocent part of me.  I have read that the Innocent Archetype is a Call for the "desire for purity, goodness and simplicity".  As I bring in all My Archetypes I definitely don't want to lose a sense of My Innocence.

 
I sometimes feel that there is so much to do and so many books to read and so much to do and so many books to read.  And then I stop and remember that all of the answers are inside me, that I can just Trust my Self.  And then this sounds all so serious - and so I remember to lighten up, be less serious, be playful and have fun.  My Innocent Child takes away the Part of me that makes life complicated - and gets me back to simplicity.  In the past My Innocent Child may have walked alone - now My Innocent has the backing and protection of all of the other Archetypes - where I am realising to walk only in one Archetype does not serve me or others.


FEELING INSPIRED
I have learnt that each Archetype has a way of being, a posture, a way of moving.  I am also conscious that each Archetype has a Shadow Sub-Personality with beliefs that do not serve.  Some of my Archetypes have come out of the Shadow and into the Light, and in the Light they have a different way of being, with Empowering  beliefs.  When they are in the Light I can choose the way they "show up" for me.  Now that all of these Parts of me are in the Light, I am wanting them to work together as a Team and help me live a life of Love, Light, Peace, Truth, Service.  Every morning I look at my Vision Board and I believe that the Strength and Teamwork of my Archetypes is the key to my Present and my Future.  


This experience has been so beneficial to me.  It has been so wonderful in helping me learn about the depth of our Being, the Energy and Power that is within us all - that can help us to be Empowered in our lives.  I know I have so many Choices in terms of my Internal Focus for Change - I can choose and design my inner experiences and my life.  I have found my Strengths and Resources.  I can choose what Archetypes to bring on the Stage in my life and I especially love that My Archetypes naturally emerge when I am in my Presence of Love and Light.  I have found my Self.  I feel Excited and Inspired. 

I will continue to enjoy the Opportunity For Self-Reflection on a daily basis, to be a Witness to my Self, as I commit myself to living a life of Love and Service in my Professional and Personal Life.

This is my Journey and I CHOOSE TO LIVE!!!  AND LOVE!!!  I CHOOSE FREEDOM TO BE TRUE TO MY SOUL'S JOURNEY.

I am VERY Excited that I can now help my Clients at a deeper level - I can help them get in touch with their own Archetypes, accessing their own Lifetools to Serve them on their own Journeys and bring their own Dreams into reality.   I am especially Excited about helping Clients access their Sage, learning to access and Trust their own Inner Knowing.  And I love helping my Clients get in touch with their own Creator, allowing them to see their own potential to Create A New Story for their lives.  And of course I see that my own experience with My Caregiver, and the huge lessons that I am learning, will allow me to be empathetic and understanding of my Clients and also helpful in looking at the possibilities and opportunities for change.  And as I bring in My Magician more and more in my own life, I am hoping this will increase my own confidence in helping activate this Archetype in others. 

I have been busy putting together my Toolbox with all of my Coaching Tools, and there are so many Coaching Tools available on so many different areas.  Although, I enjoy having all of these Resources available for my Clients, I definitely have a sense that the greatest Resource for me as a Coach is being in My Presence, being in My Yellow Heart and feeling a Heart to Heart Connection with my Clients.  And from this  Sacred Space of Love and Light, I Trust that My Archetypes (My Inner Toolbox) will naturally emerge in my Role as a Coach.


As a Coach I am Honoured and Passionate about helping my Clients Love Self and Love Life.


Sunday, July 11, 2010

My Financial Health

Now is the time to look at my Financial Health.  There is a Part of me that feels some resistance to looking at this topic, as I do not feel that I am in the best Financial Health right now.  It is definitely an Area that needs my attention, and for that reason there is definitely another Part of me that is motivated to become better Organised and Planned in this Area.  It is time to bring in my Yang.  I keep talking about bringing in more of my Yang as I am usually so much in my Yin.  I revisit my Yin and Yang images, inparticular I am inspired by my Yang Masculine image - I need this Part of me to definitely be more active.


Before I start reading my notes from College, I take the time to reflect on the History of my Relationship with Money.  I remember getting my first job while I was at school and my Parents were always very generous in letting me spend the money on whatever I wanted - clothes, going out, clothes.  Even when I went to University and I was working casually, most of my money just went to clothes and going out.  As I write this now I have a sense of sadness that I didn't contribute to my University books or stationery, I just remember my Dad going to work every day, week in and week out, working hard for his family and giving me money when I needed it.  I didn't think much about the value of Money or having Choices about Money when I was a child or even a teenage, although I do remember being sent money for my Birthday and Christmas from my Nana and Papa and Aunty Joyce and making Choices of what I should buy.  

I then remember my Cousin telling me that every time she would reach $100 in her bank account, she would transfer it to another account, and with this advice I started saving, and I loved saving.  Saving made me feel great, especially with a Goal of buying a car.  In my early 20s I bought a grey charade - I loved that car.  

Once I started working full-time I started spending money on fancy clothes for my fancy jobs in the city, I was always buying suits and scarves and stockings and shoes.  I then went to Atlanta for work for 4 months and I spent a fortune - books, clothes, perfume, presents for everyone back home.  I was also given so many presents from the place where I was working, and so when I returned home I had too many bags.  At the last minute at the airport, I had to organise for some bags of my luggage to be sent home.  

After years and years of shopping and spending, I settled into a savings plan, I don't really know how this happened or what Inspired me.  I was still living at home and I settled into a long-term relationship and before I knew it, after about 4 years, I had enough for a deposit on a home.  And then a whole new Journey began - buying a home, a mortgage.  And then a relationship breakup.  Followed by a new relationship and marriage and divorce.  Followed by other relationships and other breakups and selling my Home.  My Health and My Financial Health suffered as I went in and out of different relationships and in and out of different properties.  

About five years ago, a lot of things changed for me, where I started working with People in Hiring, Training, Management and Motivation.  I loved this job.  After years and years of Financial loss, this job gave me the opportunity to save and plan for my future.  I loved being able to buy a car and then my own Property again and I enjoyed having a feeling of Financial Freedom where I felt able to buy clothes and presents for loved ones and I was able to go out and enjoy myself and I felt in control of my Finances and my life.  

When I changed jobs, this changed for me.  And now I am choosing to start my own Business.  I feel my Journey over the last two years, and my experience of now, is just the opportunity for me to learn about My Financial Health.  I have never had to worry about a Budget or really worry about Money until now - and so now I see the opportunity to shift my perspective and learn how I can be more responsible and become more active and more abundant in this Area.

I read 'Invest In Your Financial Health' from 'Take Time For Your Life' by Cheryl Richardson and there are many parts of this excerpt that resonate with me.  "Although most of us know by now that money doesn't bring happiness, the lack of money can bring plenty of pain.  If you're living without financial reserves, it's impossible to be in control of your life.  How can you leave a job that's making you crazy and affecting your health or take time off to care for a loved one?  When will you take that trip you've been planning for the last ten years or start the business you've always dreamed of?  It's impossible to 'follow your bliss' when you've got a hefty mortgage to pay or feel saddled with unwanted debt." This resonates with me - I have always had this reserve of money and now with my decision to start my own business and stay true to my Dream, this reserve is no longer available, right now.  Time to build back the reserves.

Cheryl Richardson explains "A lack of financial reserves is the biggest obstacle to my clients, living the lives they want most... The more trouble you have with money, however, the more energy this piece will take from you and the more challenging it will be to live the life you want.  Extreme self-care includes taking care of your financial health.  If you struggle to make ends meet, have trouble saving money, or feel burdened with unwanted debt, it's time to do something about it."

Time for the Financial Health Checkup - with 15 points:
- I balance my bank statement every month - No
- I always pay my bills on time - No
- I live debt free or utilise a plan to get there - No
- I contribute to a savings plan consistently - No
- I don't dream about or depend on the lottery or other gimmicks to fund my financial future - Yes
- I know where my money goes and how much I spend on personal and/ or business expenses - Yes
- I have a long-term financial plan that supports my present and future Goals - No
- I live well within my means - Yes
- I am financially secure, I don't worry about money - No
- I always carry enough cash with me -No
- When I feel financially full, I share my wealth with others - Yes
- I pay my credit cards in full each month - No
- I pay my taxes on time - Yes
- I have an excellent financial adviser/ accountant who supports my financial goals - No
- I have a bookkeeping system that allows me to access my financial information at any time - No
= 5/15

I am reassured when I read "If this checklist feels overwhelming or depressing, don't worry.  Eight percent of the people that first take this test score between 3 and 6 points out of the possible 15.  Becoming aware of the missing pieces in your financial puzzle is the first step.  Once you know how to improve your financial health you can take one simple action and be on the road to fiscal fitness.  Inaction is what keeps you a victim to external forces."

As I am a Coach, I am all about ACTION and I also have a Commitment to Coach myself and be true to being my best on my Journey.

I enjoy reading and learning from 'Take Time For Your Life' - "This lack of skill, discipline, and basic money management expertise gets you into trouble in several ways.  First, there are concrete issues of debt and liability, what I call the practical issues.  Following close behind are the emotional issues - a looming sense of anxiety about where your money goes and a sense of hopelessness about your ability to improve your financial state.  Finally, you end up feeling frustrated, irresponsible, and bad about yourself, and this is what blocks you from increasing your wealth."

"I am convinced that the secret to creating the abundance you desire is very simple: once you take full responsibility for your financial health, money stops being a source of frustration and starts to flow into your life naturally."  I feel Inspired reading this paragraph as I have heard about this before, in line with The Secret and Law Of Attraction and as suggested by Cheryl Richardson, it is now time to send the right message to my Wise Self that I can be responsible with My Financial Health and allow more abundance into my life. "To allow more abundance into your life, you must invest in your financial health.  By shifting your attitude and developing 'adult' money skills, you'll open to the abundance that is rightfully yours.  Time and again I've watched as clients balance their checkbooks, start paying off debt, or ask for a well-deserved raise and thus open the door for more money to enter their lives."

"Restoring your financial health begins with a shift in attitude, from 'dealing with money is too much work or too stressful' to 'I'll do whatever it takes to restore My Financial Health'.  This shift sets the stage for action.  When you take the necessary actions to get on track, you end up feeling good about yourself, and that's the key ingredient to creating abundance.  When you feel secure about the way you handle money, you naturally attract more."

I like the opportunity to look at how I think and feel about money - and explore these statements:
- Money is -  Freedom and Choices 
- My bank account is - A tool I can use to be Organised
- Those who have more money than me are - Successful
- Money never - Brings happiness (oops I don't think I should be sending out that Belief)
- Money always - Makes everything easier
- When it comes to debt, I believe - That it is okay to have debt as long as it is kept under control
- When I am faced with money problems, I believe - In being aware of my debt and having a plan where I can make Choices for my future
- When it comes to money management, I am - wanting to develop better skills
- For me to make money, then - I have to follow my Vision and be true to my Self
- I can't make a lot of money because - ____________ I don't believe in this statement - I believe I can make a lot of money and I open myself up to abundance
- I deserve - for My Financial Health to be strong so that I can make Choices and Make A Difference in my life, to my loved ones and in Community.

I like this Checklist - Prescription for My Financial Health - I will be working on getting this Area of my life right (what is right and healthy for me) - 
"The Inner Work - Change How You Think and Feel About Money
- Change your beliefs
- Develop an Attitude of Gratitude (this one is easy for me)
- Share your wealth (I am already comfortable and active in sharing my wealth)
- Get comfortable with more
- Respect Yourself (I can tick this off the Checklist - and need to continually Honour my Self)

The Outer Work - Develop New Money Skills
- Ask for help
- Balance your accounts
- Know where the money goes
- Cut your expenses
- Pay your bills on time
- Eliminate debts
- Repair your credit report
- Start saving
- Put a bookkeeping system in place
- Create a personal spending plan
- Invest in your future, invest in you."

I definitely need my Organiser Archetype to help me in this Area.  I am Excited to be meeting with my Accountant this week and so I feel that this will give me a great opportunity to improve My Financial Health.   And with the start of the new Financial Year it is a perfect time to put systems in place.