Another thing that is also missing from my life, at the moment, is a regular exercise routine. I have fond memories of when I would be out running every morning, training for an upcoming running event. I would be up early and out the door full of energy and excitement. And yet now I allow time for my snooze button to catch a few extra minutes before getting out of bed to get ready for work. I do walk and I do stay active through the day - and yet I am missing a training program. I must get back onto the treadmill as well as longer walks outdoors.
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Thursday, August 25, 2011
1 Month To Go
It's 1 Month To Go until I turn 40.
40!!! I can't really believe it! The other day at work, one of my colleagues said that she thought I was in my 20s - that's a nice compliment, however the reality is that I am turning 40.
And I am feeling 40. Starting my new job has been challenging and rewarding and stressful and tiring - it has been a great move and I am enjoying my job - and I am tired and feeling old. My favourite thing to do when I get home is to have a hot bath and I do look forward to trying to get into bed before 10pm, so that I can feel fresh when I wake up early in the morning. My Man and I laugh about it - although I do wish I did not feel so tired and so "middle-aged".
With 1 Month To Go I was hoping to use tonight as a chance for Reflection - where I am, where I want to be - and how I can take Steps to close this gap. And yet as I sit here I am already feeling tired and ready to turn in for the night. Of course I also have a cold and so am not feeling 100%.
Hmm... not a positive start to my 1 Month To Go Review.
The great news is that today we sold our Apartment - and so we are 1 Step closer to being able to buy a new home, a 3 bedroom townhouse or villa where we can start getting ready to grow our Family - now that would be the number 1 Dream - having a beautiful baby. In turning 40, having a baby is what I feel is most missing from our lives - and I feel that this is the next chapter in our lives. Having a baby of our own will be the greatest Dream come true.
Another thing that is also missing from my life, at the moment, is a regular exercise routine. I have fond memories of when I would be out running every morning, training for an upcoming running event. I would be up early and out the door full of energy and excitement. And yet now I allow time for my snooze button to catch a few extra minutes before getting out of bed to get ready for work. I do walk and I do stay active through the day - and yet I am missing a training program. I must get back onto the treadmill as well as longer walks outdoors.
From today, starting today I am also making a Commitment to give up chocolate - at least for the next 1 month - chocolate is not the best for my well-being, I often get quite sick eating chocolate and the next day after eating it, I feel very less than my best. Giving up chocolate for the 1 month, at least, will also be a good practice of my willpower.
With 1 Month To Go before I turn 40 I am feeling so Grateful for all the greatness in my life - My Man, my Family, my Coaching, my new job, Community, Friends. Definitely within the next few weeks I am looking forward to some Self-Care and pampering - perhaps some nice long walks, perhaps a massage, actually definitely a massage, maybe/ definitely a facial. And maybe a new craft hobby - I did start doing knitting, enjoyed it, not sure if this is right for me since I had to keep undoing all that I have knitted when I make a mistake, as the Perfectionist in me wants to get it right - maybe back to crochet or sewing and definitely photography. And I know I definitely want to start writing, or do more writing - Trusting in the power of Inspiration and I must remember to tune into this Space.
Hmm... 1 Month To Go - and how Grateful I am that I AM HAPPY!!!
Thank You God for all your Blessings.
Hmm... time for bed... and what a Blessing it is to feel safe and warm, feeling a sense of Home and feeling relaxed and at peace.
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Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Crossing The Threshold
Well today was my last day of my job, it is a day of Crossing The Threshold - moving towards a role where I feel I will be of greater Service and working on Purpose.
Today at work, everyone was very lovely, we had a morning tea, the Operations Manager said some nice words about me, that I have "definitely been an asset", and everyone gave me a hug goodbye and wished me well and my Operations Manager once again said that he knew it would all go well for me.
I took some photos - I wanted to capture the people that I work with who have helped me grow in so many ways - and capture this day for me, a day that I will remember as it represents a big change for me, a big decision (that seems easy), the Crossing The Threshold.
I took some photos - I wanted to capture the people that I work with who have helped me grow in so many ways - and capture this day for me, a day that I will remember as it represents a big change for me, a big decision (that seems easy), the Crossing The Threshold.
It feels a bit strange leaving my job, I don't really know how I am feeling - perhaps sadness... I am not sure of the emotion... although I definitely do not feel relief or huge joy - which is a good sign in a way - I am leaving while the energy is still positive, rather than leaving a job I do not like. I have worked at this company since 1 March 2010, not that long, and yet I feel that I have settled in and given my best. Whatever the emotion of leaving my job, it is definitely side by side the Excitement of my new Journey I am about to begin. While I have given my best at my job, I know that there is more of me that I can give...and so I am Crossing The Threshold.
I definitely feel that I am responding to the Call of my Soul. And I am definitely leaving the comfortable and known and stepping out into the unknown.
I found these great words about Crossing The Threshold by Alvin Soon "You’ve committed to leaving behind the Ordinary World and stepping into the New World of your Hero’s Journey. And as you do, you’re exposed to new sounds and sights, new learnings, surprises, adventures and experiences you’ve never had before. As you do so, you might feel out of place. You might feel uncomfortable, inexperienced. You are the proverbial babe in the woods. You ask yourself, ‘What was I thinking to leave my ordinary world behind?’. We’ve all been in situations like this. But you’re stretching beyond your old self."
This morning when I was driving to work, for my last day, the first words I hear are "Shine a little of my light on the world" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Qzqzb9QTLA and I am loving this song and feeling so motivated as I sing along "I'm gonna give myself permission to shine, I'm gonna shine so bright" - loving this song! And then it was funny, as I'm feeling so Motivated and Excited, and then the news comes on and they tell the news about an armed hold up at Burwood - hmm, great, this is where I will be working. Although I know there can be crime anywhere and this will not take away my Excitement. Then a speaker comes on talking about Jesus being with his Disciples in the storm and I felt reassured and reminded that God will be with me everyday.
This morning when I was driving to work, for my last day, the first words I hear are "Shine a little of my light on the world" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Qzqzb9QTLA and I am loving this song and feeling so motivated as I sing along "I'm gonna give myself permission to shine, I'm gonna shine so bright" - loving this song! And then it was funny, as I'm feeling so Motivated and Excited, and then the news comes on and they tell the news about an armed hold up at Burwood - hmm, great, this is where I will be working. Although I know there can be crime anywhere and this will not take away my Excitement. Then a speaker comes on talking about Jesus being with his Disciples in the storm and I felt reassured and reminded that God will be with me everyday.
Ever since I have been young I have wanted to be of Service. For a long time I was planning to be a Teacher and then changed my mind at the last minute before my university preferences needed to be submitted. And for most of my Career I have worked in corporate companies and I have always tried to find a Purpose in my role to keep me Inspired. And now I am Crossing The Threshold where I feel that I can Make A Difference everyday - and that is my Commitment.
I feel ready to step out into the world. I feel Excited that I can be a Life Coach everyday. My Commitment is to see the Uniqueness and Greatness in every person, and help my Clients be the Creators of their own lives.
I feel ready to step out into the world. I feel Excited that I can be a Life Coach everyday. My Commitment is to see the Uniqueness and Greatness in every person, and help my Clients be the Creators of their own lives.
I refer to my website www.shinecoaching.com.au 'About Me' and I feel that the very essence of what I offer in Coaching, will be able to be offered in my new role:
* SHINE: Excitement, brightness, glowing, brilliance, excellence, eyes lighting up, a feeling of basking in sunlight, reflecting light to others
* As a Coach it is a Honour to work with people - As a Coach I see the light in people, their uniqueness, their greatness - so that they may SHINE and express their unique gifts in the world
* The Coaching Process involves shining a light on areas in life that are both working and not working, shining a light on the Vision for the future and bringing obstacles into the light to help bring about change
* My belief is that each day is a new day, that we are not defined or restricted by our past, but that with the rising of the sun there is the opportunity to begin again or take new steps towards our desired destination
* My desire is that the Process of Coaching can help more people LOVE SELF and LOVE LIFE
* MY BACKGROUND: I have 5 years experience working in Training and Team Performance and with a Diploma in Transformational Life Coaching I love working with Clients to help them live a life that they love
* I BRING TO COACHING: My strong Presence and offering of Sacred Space, my Passion and Enthusiasm, Positive Attitude, belief in our ability to create a life that Inspires and Excites us, Commitment to my Clients, empathy and compassion
* I AM PASSIONATE ABOUT HELPING PEOPLE
* I Am Here to Help People CREATE A NEW STORY FOR THEIR LIVES
* I Am Here to Help People SHINE in Life
And so as I am Crossing The Threshold, I realise that I may be stepping into the unknown, yet I have Confidence and Strength in my own Self and a clear Vision for my Lifework... and so I feel at Peace... Thank You God, Amen
Saturday, February 26, 2011
I Wish
The other day I went into Paddington to get some makeup for my wedding. As I do not wear makeup very often and like a very natural look, I have been looking for a makeup artist and the right makeup. And after meeting a lovely beautician on Thursday night, my journey took me into Paddington.
I am not a big shopper and yet when I arrived at Paddington, I heard the faint whisper of a Part of me that said “I Wish”... I was shocked - the voice said “I Wish I was rich...” In a second I thought about how I would go to the day spa all the time for facials and massages and “I Wish I was rich to go into all of the fancy clothing boutiques” and ”I Wish I had the confidence to go into the fancy boutiques”. And then in an instant I thought “I Wish I was more beautiful”,” I Wish I had perfect skin”, ” I Wish I had perfect features”, “ I Wish I had beautiful long hair”, “I Wish I looked all dressed up and fancy like the ladies passing by me”.
I was very curious about this Part of me...
Normally I sit in a place of Gratitude and Thankfulness for all I am and all I have. Very big in my Awareness is the fact that so many people live in poverty and struggle for their basic needs or even just people who are affected by sickness and disabiity. And yet here I was wishing for more.
And it is not that I can’t afford clothes in those boutiques - maybe one or two pieces (maybe a scarf) if I made it a Priority - yet it actually comes back to the larger Part of me that does not really like shopping. And yet I have noticed that there is this Part of me that is become louder and wants to wear nice things and wear makeup and look pretty. For a long time I did competitive Running, it was always about being faster - short hair, skinny, Running shoes, Running clothes, Running, training, competing - very Masculine and Yang. I even remember a boyfriend at the time who grew sick of my tracksuits and wished I wore more skirts - I still remember him saying that to me. And after I hurt my back I started wearing shapeup joggers to help my back, and they do make a difference - and yet now I want different. Now my Feminine Part of me, my Yin, is coming more alive, back alive - where I am finding myself wanting to buy magazines, wear pretty blouses, wanting to paint my nails - and even travelling to Paddington to get the right makeup that is right for me.
These thoughts in my head of “I Wish” only lasted about one or two minutes. I was then able to return to the Part of me that knows I am so fortunate. And then I also sat in a Space of what is really most important to me - what “I Wish” for the most - “I Wish my Mum didn’t have cancer”, this is the big number one - and “I Wish we have a baby soon”, another big, very important Wish.
Being in the Space of “I Wish” made me think of the Serenity Prayer - “God grant me the Serenity to Accept the things I cannot Change; the Courage to change the things I can; and the Wisdom to know the difference.” For me there are many things outside my control, some of the big things. And if my greatest ”I Wish” is about Family for me, I can continue to treat this as a Priority in my life.
And if I am finding my Spirit come alive and some excitement regarding matters of the Feminine, it does not mean that I have to get caught up in Consumerism, Materialism, Shopping - yet I can enjoy my trip to Paddington to buy makeup, I can buy and enjoy flicking through magazines, and I am really enjoying now that I am back again wearing more dresses, embracing my Feminine. And it doesn’t mean I have to spend a lot of money - I even enjoyed a look at St Vincent De Paul’s at Paddington and found a really nice designer blouse and also a dress - all for the total price of $18 - I was Excited. I don’t really care about the “designer” bit, although there was a Part of me quietly Proud as if I had bought it at full price - and the main Part of me loved the bargain. Mostly I always love the opportunity to be on a treasure hunt to see what surprises and delights me in second hand stores and I love the chance to Recycle and Reuse.
The “I Wish” related to the Feminine Part of me is loving colour and fabrics and fashion. My Spirit is highlighting that I could get back to sewing again - I remember with fond memories sewing clothes -back when I was about 16-20 years of age. I used to love sewing dresses and wearing them out. Perhaps a new hobby when the time is right. And I am also interested in expressing my creativity through photography - another hobby I once loved.
I am not going to say” I Wish I had more time”. I know I have the power to manage my time so that I can focus on my Priorities and Values.
I just realised that if I stay in the “I Wish” Space for too long (more than a couple of minutes), I am almost sitting in powerlessness, almost waiting for someone to rescue me or make my dreams come true.
I just realised that if I stay in the “I Wish” Space for too long (more than a couple of minutes), I am almost sitting in powerlessness, almost waiting for someone to rescue me or make my dreams come true.
Instead if I use the “I Wish” Space as a window to when my Spirit comes alive and when I feel Inspired, I can decide if this is really my heart’s desire. There is almost a childhood Innocence here - I can ask my Innocence Part of me what I really want, and in the quietness listen to my inner voice.
For ages and always, since I have stopped Running over the last couple of years, whenever I see a runner, I always say to myself “I Wish I could run again”, and so today on my walk, I allowed my Self to enjoy a few minutes of Running, in between Walking, enough to make me feel the aliveness and Joy of Running. Wonderful!!!
From the “I Wish” Space I can also check to see what is underneath the “I Wish” and show Curiosity of how I can fulfil Needs for my Self, my Soul. As an example the “I Wish I was rich and I would go to day spas more often”, I know this for me is about yes being pampered, but most importantly just wanting time to relax and have “me time”. And so this morning I made it a Priority to get up early and take a walk in nature, and this evening made time for a relaxing bath.
And so from the “I Wish” Space, which feels so distant and far away, I am able to move to a place of feeling Excited and Empowered.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Community
The other day I was with at my Parents' home and we were reminiscing about the days when I was a Runner. I loved Running. I was a part of a Running Club and I loved my Community. I loved being part of this Community. For a long time Running was a major part of my life - my week days and weekends were dedicated to training and competing. And I loved it. I do miss my Running and hope to get back to Running after we have a Family. And I also love that now I have discovered new Parts of my Self.
I was showing My Man my photos from my Running and I also found a piece of writing from 26 January 2001 - 10 years ago. Here is what I wrote:
"MISSION STATEMENT FOR THE NEXT 100 YEARS
My wish is that all people will become actively involved in, and enjoy the benefits of, true Community.
Community is where a group of two or more people, regardless of differences, are able to accept and transcend these differences, enabling them to work effectively towards common Goals. In a true Community, members support and encourage one another. It is a place where there is freedom to be oneself, where ideas, opinions, sorrows, joys and Dreams are shared.
I am so fortunate to be part of the Western District Joggers & Harriers Club, which is more than just a Running Club... we are a Community... a Community that makes a difference to people's lives week in and week out. The Running Club Community which originated in mid 1967 with only a few members now has over 200 Members. Our Running Club meets every Saturday morning at Lake Gillawarna, Georges Hall at 7:30am. We are a Family Blub which promotes Health and Fitness, with our Members enjoying the benefits and good feelings associated with being a part of a true Community.
My wish is that every individual becomes involved and joins a Community - such as a sporting group, a social club, a volunteer organisation, a church group, or a hobby group - any place where you can meet up with other people who may have the same interest (even if the interest is based on a desire to meet new people and enjoy new friendships). I believe that the benefits for the individual and society of building communities are immeasurable.
My wish is that everyone can be proactive in building Communities within all their day to day relationships - within their Marriages, Families, work environments, social groups, sporting groups, suburbs, cities and countries.
As individuals we can build Communities by:
- Doing what is right;
- Being open and honest in all our interactions;
- Encouraging, celebrating and accepting our Uniqueness and different opinions, thoughts and ideas;
- Listening and being genuinely interested in others;
- Learning from one another's experiences;
- Always doing the best you can, in all you do;
- Being personally committed to continuous improvement;
- Treating others, as you would like to be treated.
God gave us the best Gift of all - the Gift of free will - the ability to choose. Each day we make Choices. We can choose how we want to spend our time, who we want to be, our Attitude and how we act and react.
My wish is that today, on Australia Day, 26 January 2001, all individuals make a choice to take personal responsibility and make a Commitment, to being the best they can be, and to build Communities within all their relationships.
It only takes small changes as individuals - but together we can make a big difference in building a better world.
I hope my wish comes true."
I loved reading what I wrote 10 years ago - feeling Inspired and seeing that my Values and Philosophy are still very similar. And for the last 6 months I have consciously been aware of my feeling of a lack of Community in my life, or rather, the desire for me to regain a sense of Community in my life. I am Grateful that I have a strong sense of Belonging with my Family and now with My Man, and yet there is a Part of me longing to again be a Member of a broader Community. The Journey of being a Member came out when I was working with my Coach last year. And I also know in my Heart, that some of my happiest times was when I was part of my Running Community - it is a time that brought me such great joy.
And I am Excited that I have found a Community that I am growing to love. I feel so at home when I go to Church on a Sunday - Kingsway Community http://www.kingsway.org.au/Welcome. There is so much Spirit within this gathering of friends. I am made to feel so welcome and at the same time given Space so that I am not overwhelmed or rushed to give more than I can. I have been going on and off for about 2 years and it was only recently that I started going there again more frequently after being away for about 5-6 months. When I went back to Church I was overwhelmed with this feeling of being at home, overwhelmed with being somewhere so special, so emotional that I was moved to tears - happy tears.
I love being in Connection each week with new people and I really love the messages each week from the Pastors. What I love is that the Pastor is able to make the bible readings very relevant for today. I also love that what the Pastors talk about is very much in line with my work in Coaching. I love the Kingsway Community Churchs' Mission and Vision - Refuge for Healing, River for Refreshment, Resource for Unity. Just the other week one of the Pastors was talking about all people being in touch with their Uniqueness in the divine plan - I loved listening and felt so Inspired after being at Church - especially since this is an area I am so Passionate about in working with my Clients - helping Clients connect to their own sense of Uniqueness and Greatness. I also loved when one of the Pastors talked about Community as "sharing the joy of Hope".
I love being in Connection each week with new people and I really love the messages each week from the Pastors. What I love is that the Pastor is able to make the bible readings very relevant for today. I also love that what the Pastors talk about is very much in line with my work in Coaching. I love the Kingsway Community Churchs' Mission and Vision - Refuge for Healing, River for Refreshment, Resource for Unity. Just the other week one of the Pastors was talking about all people being in touch with their Uniqueness in the divine plan - I loved listening and felt so Inspired after being at Church - especially since this is an area I am so Passionate about in working with my Clients - helping Clients connect to their own sense of Uniqueness and Greatness. I also loved when one of the Pastors talked about Community as "sharing the joy of Hope".
I loved being at Church on Sunday. I was actually Excited to be going, as I know I always enjoy the feeling of being in this Community. This week at Church the Pastors talked about this year being a year of "letting go". He talked about the verse in the bible from Hebrews 12:1-2 (ESV) "since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us" and used the metaphor of an Olympic Runner who is trying to run with a whole crate of lead and how he will be slower versus someone who is free. He gave examples of "Everything that hinders:
* Unfulfilled and unrealistic expectations
* Disappointments/hurts/offences
* Fear and insecurities, self-esteem issues
* Apathy/laziness
* Busyness
* Accumulation/material obsession/worldly goals
* Self reliance
* Isolation/individualism
* Programs
* Belief systems
* Health/fitness issues – physical/emotional/spiritual
* Facades/masks
* Unhealthy relationships
* Demarcation
* Control/pride
* My agenda
* Judgemental criticism
* Disobedience
* Comfort
* Bitterness/unforgiveness
* “Rights”/title/position."
I loved how the Pastor talked about Mindsets, Beliefs and Attitudes that slow us down and trip us up, and the importance of Perseverence. I just love that the language that is used at the Church is in line with my life and my Beliefs and my Coaching. I just love these words in one of the Pastor's Blog "The exciting thing in all of this is the goal … which is greater FREEDOM. Imagine for a minute what it would be like to be totally free … free from ‘every weight’ that slows you down, hinders your relationships, distracts your purpose, hampers your development, obstructs your growth and holds you back from being the extraordinary person God wants you to be for Him and His kingdom … NOW. The more we can get rid of these burdens, weights and loads from our life, the better and more effective we will be … and the more fun we will have together."
I feel very Inspired to become more involved in this Community. Whenever I go to Church I feel Inspired to Volunteer and now I feel Inspired to offer up my Gift of Coaching. I am not sure in what form I will be involved - I would be happy to offer some Workshops and Coaching and I am Excited that I spoke with one of the Team Leaders last Sunday and will meet her for a cuppa and see if I can be of Service. I was also very interested to hear about the Youth Programme the Church is running and may be able to offer Coaching to one of the teenagers. I was amazed to hear that of the Youth going to a Youth Group on a Friday night, only 20% are from Families who go to the Church, 80% of the Youth are coming on their own, perhaps connecting to a sense of Spirituality for the first time.
I am Excited to have found a Community that I love.
I am also very interested in joining in the Community of Coaches that is being led by the Vision of one of my friends from College. We are meeting in a few weeks and I am looking forward to hearing more about the Vision and Mission of this Community. My wish is that I can combine my interest in being involved in the Community of Coaches with my desire to be more involved in my local Community.
What I love about my Church Community is that they are Local and offer so many great Programs for the Local Community, and they are also very Conscious and Connected to the Global Community. And I love the music, I love the music - it is a chance to rejoice and be Grateful. Here are some of the songs from last Sunday that I loved singing
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MKAzYJcWSY
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UJtuyY8v1g (very Inspired by the words of this song)
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79055I6o-NQ
When I was a Member of my Running Club, I loved seeing friends week in and week out, being caring and supporting each other, being of Service in the Community as Club Captain, and also being of Service for the greater good (as we raised money for different charities). My wish for my Self is that I become a true Member of a Community again, and I feel I am taking steps in the right direction.
* Unfulfilled and unrealistic expectations
* Disappointments/hurts/offences
* Fear and insecurities, self-esteem issues
* Apathy/laziness
* Busyness
* Accumulation/material obsession/worldly goals
* Self reliance
* Isolation/individualism
* Programs
* Belief systems
* Health/fitness issues – physical/emotional/spiritual
* Facades/masks
* Unhealthy relationships
* Demarcation
* Control/pride
* My agenda
* Judgemental criticism
* Disobedience
* Comfort
* Bitterness/unforgiveness
* “Rights”/title/position."
I loved how the Pastor talked about Mindsets, Beliefs and Attitudes that slow us down and trip us up, and the importance of Perseverence. I just love that the language that is used at the Church is in line with my life and my Beliefs and my Coaching. I just love these words in one of the Pastor's Blog "The exciting thing in all of this is the goal … which is greater FREEDOM. Imagine for a minute what it would be like to be totally free … free from ‘every weight’ that slows you down, hinders your relationships, distracts your purpose, hampers your development, obstructs your growth and holds you back from being the extraordinary person God wants you to be for Him and His kingdom … NOW. The more we can get rid of these burdens, weights and loads from our life, the better and more effective we will be … and the more fun we will have together."
I feel very Inspired to become more involved in this Community. Whenever I go to Church I feel Inspired to Volunteer and now I feel Inspired to offer up my Gift of Coaching. I am not sure in what form I will be involved - I would be happy to offer some Workshops and Coaching and I am Excited that I spoke with one of the Team Leaders last Sunday and will meet her for a cuppa and see if I can be of Service. I was also very interested to hear about the Youth Programme the Church is running and may be able to offer Coaching to one of the teenagers. I was amazed to hear that of the Youth going to a Youth Group on a Friday night, only 20% are from Families who go to the Church, 80% of the Youth are coming on their own, perhaps connecting to a sense of Spirituality for the first time.
I am Excited to have found a Community that I love.
I am also very interested in joining in the Community of Coaches that is being led by the Vision of one of my friends from College. We are meeting in a few weeks and I am looking forward to hearing more about the Vision and Mission of this Community. My wish is that I can combine my interest in being involved in the Community of Coaches with my desire to be more involved in my local Community.
What I love about my Church Community is that they are Local and offer so many great Programs for the Local Community, and they are also very Conscious and Connected to the Global Community. And I love the music, I love the music - it is a chance to rejoice and be Grateful. Here are some of the songs from last Sunday that I loved singing
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MKAzYJcWSY
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UJtuyY8v1g (very Inspired by the words of this song)
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79055I6o-NQ
When I was a Member of my Running Club, I loved seeing friends week in and week out, being caring and supporting each other, being of Service in the Community as Club Captain, and also being of Service for the greater good (as we raised money for different charities). My wish for my Self is that I become a true Member of a Community again, and I feel I am taking steps in the right direction.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Perfect
Perfect - Defined as:
- conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type
- excellent or complete beyond practical or theoretical improvement
- exactly fitting the need in a certain situation or for a certain purpose
- entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings
- accurate, exact, or correct in every detail:
- expert; accomplished; proficient.
I remember years ago - years and years ago - when I bought my first home with a boyfriend, a man I thought I was going to marry. I loved our house. And I was keen to make it a home. I wanted it to be Perfect. After a few months, my boyfriend broke up with me - he said I was like 'Betty Crocker' and he wasn't ready to settle down, he wanted to travel and party and stay young - he wasn't ready.
- conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type
- excellent or complete beyond practical or theoretical improvement
- exactly fitting the need in a certain situation or for a certain purpose
- entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings
- accurate, exact, or correct in every detail:
- expert; accomplished; proficient.
When do we start trying to be Perfect? Is it when we are young and start school and try to get everything right so that we get some gold stars and be "good"? Is it when we are teenagers and start comparing ourselves to other people in our class, stars on television, models in the magazines? Is it when we start working and there is the pressure to know all the answers and act like we are great at every part of our job (especially since we try so hard at the interview to impress and 'act' like we will be Perfect for the role)? Is it when we become Wives and fall 'victim' to the 'Perfect HouseWife Syndrome'?
I am about to become a Wife again and a big Part of me wants to be the Perfect HouseWife.
I remember years ago - years and years ago - when I bought my first home with a boyfriend, a man I thought I was going to marry. I loved our house. And I was keen to make it a home. I wanted it to be Perfect. After a few months, my boyfriend broke up with me - he said I was like 'Betty Crocker' and he wasn't ready to settle down, he wanted to travel and party and stay young - he wasn't ready.
And then years later I got married and my ex-husband was happy for me to be his Wife. And I wanted to be Perfect. And I struggled to be Perfect. As a couple we were far from Perfect. And in my Self I was searching to be Perfect, to find the Perfect career to make me happy. And I had a lot of stuff - I remember that one of our bedrooms of our three bedroom home, the study, was a mess, and I would always quickly shut the door if we had visitors. I hated that I wasn't Perfect. And then the imperfections became very clear as our marriage started falling apart and I started falling apart. And this was a long time ago.
And now I am getting married again - and I can't wait!!! It feels very different this time. Last time, I remember 6 weeks before the wedding and I was worried about sending out the wedding invitations and I spent a lot of time thinking and justifying in my mind why I should get married - while my Intuition, my 'gut' feel, was yelling out to me - and I didn't take notice. Now I pay attention to my Intuition and I am so Grateful that now every part of me knows that my marriage to be will be wonderful - our relationship is wonderful. What I love about being with My Man most is that I can be Me. I also love that I do not have to be Perfect. And I love that My Man is Perfect to me. We are both imperfectly Perfect. We accept all Parts of each other. Our love is Perfect. How Perfect that I can be my ImPerfect Self and be loved by My Man.
As a Coach I am always on the look out for my Clients' Perfectionists, who may be stopping my Clients from moving forward in achieving their Dreams. In working with my Clients I help them access other Parts of Self so that they can set and achieve their Goals.
And so I ask my Self - what is the role of the Perfectionist in our lives? What is the role of the Perfectionist in my life? I know from my Training and experience that there is a Gift to every Part within our Self. As I Dream about being a Perfect Wife I wonder what is the message here for me?
Just today I have been thinking about what I want to achieve before we get married - apart from having a Perfect Wedding Day. I have set my Self some Goals that are important to me:
- Clean my Study (so much paperwork and clutter)
- Organise my Superannuation
- Clean and organise and de-clutter my garage (again).
Perhaps the Gift of my Perfectionist is that this Part of me is reminding me of what needs to be done to clear clutter and Create Space in my home and in my mind. And it is easy to be motivated to achieve these Goals as I know that I will feel very happy. I always feel good after housework - I actually enjoy cleaning. Now it is time to make more time for our home and my personal finances - it is time to get done what is important to me - to treat these as Priorities in my life.
It is my Mum and Dad's 43rd Wedding Anniversary today - which is beautiful. I feel bad that I am not the Perfect Daughter as I have had such a busy week and day that I forgot that today was their special day - and now I am justifying and finding excuses. And I am happy that my Mum and Dad had a lovely day out today - that is most important - and so it doesn't matter if I wasn't Perfect in my own eyes - what is most Perfect is that I love my Mum and Dad so much and they love me.
I love that I have such wonderful role models of marriage from my Mum and Dad. And I do think that my Mum and Dad are both Perfect. And My Man and I will be Perfect in our own way, in our unique way.
And as I think about my upcoming marriage I do believe that things will be different - I want things to be different. I know that I will feel different. We have lived together for a year now and yet I know for me marriage is different. Some people say that when they get married it is no different from living together. And yet I know it will be different, I want it to be different. Getting married for me is a very BIG deal, especially after I have been previously married and it did not work. I believe that I will feel different. And I want the exterior to also be different - and so I want to do a BIG clean up before we get married. It has been challenging moving 2 x 2 bedroom homes into 1 unit - and that is just an excuse.
I think that I have been so against being Perfect, that I have been too Relaxed. And I have loved the Relaxed Part of me - it lets me relax on the lounge and watch my favourite shows after having a busy day at work. And now it is time to bring the Organiser Part of me onto the Stage of my life and help me achieve my Goals before I get married - and I don't have to be Perfect.
I need to remind my Self - I don't have to be Perfect.
I don't want to be like the women in 'Stepford Wives' - I just want to be My Self.
Now that I am a Life Coach, working with Clients to create a life that they Love, I often challenge my Self - shouldn't I be Perfect and have every area of my life at a 10 out of 10? Sometimes this is what I ask my Self - and then I remind my Self that I do not have to be Perfect - that, like my Clients, I am also on a Journey and I am learning and growing. What I can promise my Self and my Coaching Clients is that I am committed to Self-Reflection, Self-Awareness and Self-Development. With this promise and knowing I can be less Perfect and more accepting and more loving to my Self.
Now that I am a Life Coach, working with Clients to create a life that they Love, I often challenge my Self - shouldn't I be Perfect and have every area of my life at a 10 out of 10? Sometimes this is what I ask my Self - and then I remind my Self that I do not have to be Perfect - that, like my Clients, I am also on a Journey and I am learning and growing. What I can promise my Self and my Coaching Clients is that I am committed to Self-Reflection, Self-Awareness and Self-Development. With this promise and knowing I can be less Perfect and more accepting and more loving to my Self.
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Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Stop
Stop - that's what I need to do when I decide to eat chocolate. I have to Stop eating chocolate!
Growing up I loved chocolate. It was always a special treat on the day my Mum went shopping, where she would buy a block of chocolate or we would get some dairy milk rolls as a special treat. And then at school, I loved eating strawberry freddos. I always liked chocolate. And then I became super serious with my running, and for a long time, maybe around 5-7 years, I didn't eat any chocolate or any sugar or any cakes or any treats. I loved that I was so disciplined and I felt healthy in some ways - and in other ways my diet was so extreme that it was stressful, especially since I was also vegan.
And so I started becoming more flexible with my diet. Now my preference is vegetarian, although I do eat fish. And since I met My Man I started eating Lindt chocolate. And yet the truth is that even though I like chocolate, every time I eat it, I feel sick. I thought that it may be me feeling guilty that I was eating chocolate and yet I eat it so rarely that I do not feel guilty - I just feel sick. I eat chocolate, I definitely enjoy the chocolate, and then within a short period of time I get a headache, stomach ache and my legs start aching - I then lie in bed feeling sick. And often the next day I wake up with a chocolate hangover - feeling heavy and tired and sick. And I know all of this, and I still, from time to time, maybe once a week or once a fortnight, decide to eat chocolate.
The last two nights I have had chocolate. And it might not sound like a big deal, considering I don't eat chocolate very much - yet it is a big deal, given that it makes me feel sick - I feel that I am allergic to something in chocolate - and I know it, and I still eat it. The good news is, that I haven't really had much chocolate since Christmas, and so I know it is not an addiction and I know I can give it up - and I want to Stop eating it - to best look after my Self.
And I am aware that eating chocolate or sweets can often be linked to our emotional state - and I have definitely had two huge and challenging days at work - and I am conscious of eating chocolate - and often it is because I like the taste, and then the delight is very quickly replaced with regret.
I've been reading 'The Best Year Of Your Life' by Debbie Ford, an amazing book, and I love the poem by Portia Nelson, which illustrates how we "keep engaging in the same behaviours over and over again".
- "I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in... it's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
I walk down another street."
I love this poem. I feel Inspired when I read the words. And I could definitely relate to the words, particularly for previous relationships that did not serve me. And now for chocolate. It makes no sense to me why I continue to eat chocolate, even if it is only every now and then, when it moves me away from my preferred happy and healthy Self - and so I am making the commitment to Stop.
My Strategy is to make sure I pause before taking a piece of chocolate, and in that moment I will imagine a Stop sign - as well as projecting forward and remembering how unwell I will be if I eat the chocolate.
I am also Excited that I am getting married in 8.5 weeks and I also plan to Visualise my Self in my Yellow Dress, as I want to feel my best. As we are also trying for a baby, which is SO important to me, I am also planning to imagine keeping my body healthy and strong for our beautiful baby.
By writing this Post, I am showing all of me, including my imperfections - which is interesting, as I have continued to eat chocolate every now and then so that I am not being so strict on my Self and not being too perfect. In Coaching, I am often on the look out for the Perfectionist Part of my Clients that sabotage Self-Esteem and can affect our achieving of our Dreams - and yet I need to get real - eating chocolate does not serve me. I am using this Space to detail my Goal of not eating any chocolate at all anymore, and to also hold my Self Accountable to my Self.
Of course I have also asked My Man for support and asked him not to offer me any chocolate or buy me any chocolate, and to also tackle me if I make my way to the fridge to have some of his chocolate. Time for me to be focused and Stop. It's that simple. And instead of chocolate I will choose a peppermint tea which I always enjoy and makes me feel relaxed and at peace.
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Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Music Moves Me
Balance is important to me. Sometimes I like silence. I especially love silence when I am out walking - I don't like listening to music while I am outdoors in Nature - I just love the silence and the Space. And I love when I can enjoy silence at home, silence in the car - just time to have Space. I am so fortunate that this year I have been able to enjoy more Space in my life.
And at other times I love listening to Music. I love Music. I love when I am cooking and I remember to put on one of my favourite CDs and I dance and sing around the kitchen. Or it is after dinner and I put on a song and My Man and I dance around the loungeroom. And I love when I dance around with my three beautiful Nieces, we hold hands and spin around - it is a joyful time. I recently found hundreds of CDs in my garage and I have been meaning to gather some of my favourite CDs and bring them into our home to enjoy.
When I am driving to work I also love listening to songs that make me feel Inspired - I love when Music Moves Me. I love when a great song comes on the radio or on one of my CDs and I turn up the volume and feel Energised.
Two of my favourite songs that I listen to when I am driving to meet with my Coaching Clients are by Shannon Noll - 'Lift' and 'Shine'.
I love 'Lift' - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gUWbPzDGuo
The words of this piece of Music Moves Me:
- "I know you're hurting"
- "Seems like forever
That you've been falling"
- "Your life is calling, yeah"
- "This was never meant to be the end
Close the book and start again"
- "Cos I know how hard it can get"
- "I know you're stronger"
- "You've got to lift yourself up above all
the hurt - Don't give in"
I also love the song 'Shine' - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_9id4I0pCw
I love the song since my Business is called 'SHINE Coaching' and I love the words and passion of this song - I definitely feel Excited and Inspired.
I love these words:
- "Today's the day you hold the world with your song
Go now, go now, go now, help escalate
Angels come down, help with this parade
To hear your voice ring out
Come on and shout it
Let your song be heard
- "This is the time
This is the day that we've been waiting for
All the world will stop to watch you shine
This is the time
This is the day that we've been waiting for
All the world believes that you will shine"
These songs help me feel positive and uplifted. Music definitely has the power to make me feel wonderful. And yet today when I was looking on 'youtube' I came across a short clip with Music and images that touched me with a deep sadness. This song and clip is definitely not uplifting - instead it makes you very much stop and just sit with hard realities
I love to be positive and uplifted and yet this clip is also a reminder of the tragedy and pain in the world that affects individuals, families, communities, countries. And as I sit and watch the images I almost watch in disbelief and the world stops around me, as I sit with the horror and tragedy of the world events. I am humbled and I feel compassion and empathy for my fellow brothers and sisters.
Watching this clip reminds me that there are so many things that we cannot control - and yet we can choose to love others and Spread The Yellow - offering Connection and Acknowledgement - sitting and sharing Sacred Space with another in good times and in times of pain. We can choose to offer a smile, a kind word, a hug. We can see the light in another and help them see the light in themselves and the light in their world.
And we can hold the Paradox - Gratitude for the Joy and Light in our own lives and also holding the realities of darkness and sadness. And I definitely feel Inspired after watching this clip to be active, to help others and work in Community, to Make A Difference, and to take a Stand for human rights and what is right.
And we can hold the Paradox - Gratitude for the Joy and Light in our own lives and also holding the realities of darkness and sadness. And I definitely feel Inspired after watching this clip to be active, to help others and work in Community, to Make A Difference, and to take a Stand for human rights and what is right.
I am so Grateful for the Light in my life. I would like to share one last clip (not to take away from, or forget, the sadness of the previous clip). This is a great song that I heard the other day. My Man and I are currently planning our wedding - and I am feeling Excited. We are planning to have this as our wedding song - it is fun and I love the words "you take me the way I am"
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBKAPazypwc&feature=relatedThis clip and the words make us laugh and we are blessed to have found True Love with each other. In True Love we can share the happiness and the sadness, the joy and the pain - we can embrace life together.
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Monday, September 27, 2010
Opportunity For Self-Reflection
Over the last couple of months, I have been enjoying the Opportunity For Self-Reflection. This has been a recommendation as part of my Life Coaching Professional Training and it has been life changing for me. I feel that I have learnt so much about my Self and that I am now so in touch with my Inner Strengths and Resources. I have found Peace. My Journey is only just beginning and I am Excited.
MY YELLOW HEART
Initially my Self-Reflection was about observing where I spend my time - in my Mind, Feelings or Body. I quickly realised that I was spending a lot of time thinking, a lot of time overthinking. In my Mind I was thinking about the Past and the Future, thinking about things I couldn't change, thinking about what I did and didn't like about work - just thinking, thinking, thinking. NOW I am excited that I am able to bring myself into the NOW - to be fully Present - I am not in thinking mode, or feeling mode, I am in a neutral, relaxed position. My Touchstone, my symbol of this Presence, is My Yellow Heart. I have a sense that My Yellow Heart is my Soul's Home. It is a place of Love, Light, Peace and Truth. It is a resting place. I feel myself totally relaxed in my Body, totally Present. When I am sitting with my Clients I am in My Yellow Heart - totally Present, creating a Sacred Space.
MY YELLOW HEART
Initially my Self-Reflection was about observing where I spend my time - in my Mind, Feelings or Body. I quickly realised that I was spending a lot of time thinking, a lot of time overthinking. In my Mind I was thinking about the Past and the Future, thinking about things I couldn't change, thinking about what I did and didn't like about work - just thinking, thinking, thinking. NOW I am excited that I am able to bring myself into the NOW - to be fully Present - I am not in thinking mode, or feeling mode, I am in a neutral, relaxed position. My Touchstone, my symbol of this Presence, is My Yellow Heart. I have a sense that My Yellow Heart is my Soul's Home. It is a place of Love, Light, Peace and Truth. It is a resting place. I feel myself totally relaxed in my Body, totally Present. When I am sitting with my Clients I am in My Yellow Heart - totally Present, creating a Sacred Space.
When I reflect on my Coaching Business logo, and what my work is about for my Clients, I feel that I am able to experience the essence of my logo - where I am sitting in a relaxed place, in My Yellow Heart, and then from this place I will naturally bring my Yin and Yang into the Coaching Space.
I find that I am no longer wasting energy thinking about my Past or what is not within my control. I find that I am more at Peace. I find that I have an Inner Strength that supports me. If I find myself going back into an old pattern of worrying or thinking, I imagine a STOP sign and with the image of My Yellow Heart, I am able to come back to the Present moment.
Or if I am drawn back to the Past, I bring in the image of boxes all packed up and come back to the NOW. I bring in the images of the boxes if I start thinking about my Past, wasting mental energy - in this way I am able to see that these memories are in the Past, the boxes are closed and stacked away.
And if I look at my Past from a Spiritual perspective, I am able to see that all of my experiences are part of who I am and my Journey. My Past experiences have motivated me to become a Coach and a Healer. From this perspective, when I do turn to my Past, I feel that all my stories and life experiences are like books in a bookshelf. As books in the bookshelf I am able to open and close them and certainly refer to the lessons to help me in my life. My life experience also gives me an incredible sense of Compassion for my Clients.
In My Yellow Heart I feel Love and Light, I am Presence, I am in the NOW. In this place I am able to hear the whisper of my Soul's longing and feel the rising of Spirit in my Self and my Life.
Being in Presence has been very important to me, especially with all of the ups and downs and swings and roundabouts in my life. When I am Present, I also have a sense of Trust that all will be okay, that I have the Strength within me.
MY ARCHETYPES
I have also loved the Opportunity For Self-Reflection to get to know my Archetypes - I have loved this Opportunity. I have found that there is so much Power and Strength in knowing all of these Parts of me and choosing how they show up in my life and when to bring them on the Stage in my life.
I have also found, that these different Parts of me, naturally emerge when I am in my Presence, totally Present in My Yellow Heart, when I am living in the Now.
I have enjoyed Art Therapy, sketching and colouring with my crayons and pencils. I have enjoyed walks in Nature. I have enjoyed being a Client and working with my Coach. I have enjoyed Meditation. I especially loved the 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation where I was able to be a witness and interact with my Archetypes. I have also enjoyed reading about the different Archetypes and selecting images that resonate for me. While I have been researching the Archetypes, I am not sitting in a place of trying to understand the theory - instead, I am really sitting into the truth of what this is for me, and with a curiosity of what is possible from this Part of my Self.
I have also found, that these different Parts of me, naturally emerge when I am in my Presence, totally Present in My Yellow Heart, when I am living in the Now.
I have enjoyed Art Therapy, sketching and colouring with my crayons and pencils. I have enjoyed walks in Nature. I have enjoyed being a Client and working with my Coach. I have enjoyed Meditation. I especially loved the 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation where I was able to be a witness and interact with my Archetypes. I have also enjoyed reading about the different Archetypes and selecting images that resonate for me. While I have been researching the Archetypes, I am not sitting in a place of trying to understand the theory - instead, I am really sitting into the truth of what this is for me, and with a curiosity of what is possible from this Part of my Self.
I loved getting to know my Yin and Yang and now I am loving getting to know my Archetypes which have both Yin and Yang in them. I feel that when I am in tune with my Yin Intuition, my 'gut feel', I am able to get my Yang to speak and act for the Highest Good. I am still learning about these Parts of me and I am enjoying getting to know My Sage, Nature Child, Innocent Child, Caretaker, Regular Gal, Wanderer, Warrior, Jester, Destroyer, Organiser, Creator, Magician, Visionary, Lover, Healer.
My Sage
I have a strong sense of My Sage - My Wise Self. In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation I imagined meeting My Sage. My Sage stood right next to me, the Observer part of me. My Sage is glowing and full of Light. I feel energised in her Presence. My Sage tells me "I am here, I am always here". My Sage is connected to the Love and Light of the Universe. I am Grateful to find this Part of me to be so Resourceful and Helpful. I draw on My Sage to Guide me. My Intent is to draw on the Wisdom of My Sage and speak and act more often from this Part of me.
There is the question of what is the new belief that is true for me? Looking at the Shadow of The Sage, perhaps the belief in me was that I had to know everything, or find the answer outside of my Self - however, now I am learning that My Sage is connected to God, Inspired by Spirit and I can draw on Universal Wisdom. From this place, I can Trust my Self, rather than searching for the answers outside of my Self.
In the last few months I have spent a lot of time in My Caregiver Archetype. I am learning a lot about My Caregiver Part of my Self. I naturally move into a Caregiver with my Nieces and my Parents and My Man and my Brother. There are many positives of My Caregiver in that I am loving and caring and helpful and want to take away the pain of my Family. In terms of images, I felt that this was My Caregiver - a traditional image of a Mother and Child. What I am learning is that this Caregiver image can best serve me and encourage me to look after my own vulnerable child within - making sure I make Self-Care a Priority. My Caregiver is learning to balance Self-Care with Care for others.
And in my Self-Reflection I am realising that I need to also evolve the essence of My Caregiver - moving away from coming across as the Parent of my Nieces, Brother, Parents or My Man. And so I am Consciously shifting My Caregiver Part of me. By being a Witness to my Self, I am learning that I need to be there for my Family and offer help and yet I need to remember the words "I am I, You are You". With my Family, especially my Brother and my Parents I need to communicate from a place of Sacred Space and Trust my Family - not try to be the Parent. I need to Trust that we are all on our own separate Journey and allow us each the Space to walk our Path. I need to Consciously tune into My Sage to help me with My Caregiver Role as it can be challenging when I have Parents who are not well and I am wanting my Brother to be different in his Caregiver role - and of course this is outside my control - and I need to respect Boundaries. In particular I believe that My Sage and My Caretaker can work together for the Greatest Good.
I also sense that in My Caregiver Part of me I can offer the sense of holding hands with those I love and looking out in the same direction - looking at shared objectives and facing the future together. This is one of my most challenging parts of my Journey right now - and I am Consciously trying to move away from the belief that "I need to be in the boat with you and I give my advice because I care" to "I am here for you and I respect your choices". I feel that I can Consciously bring My Healer energy into my personal relationships to join together with My Caregiver.
When I feel drawn to work with children and communities living in poverty, I also feel a Call to My Caregiver Part of me. I am not sure where this Call will lead me, although I know that one day I would love to visit and work with these communities. For now, I am glad that we sponsor a little girl in Laos. I am also committed to donate $5 every Coaching Session to Plan Australia, who is committed to helping empower children and communities to create a positive future. I am drawn to images of Princess Diana and her charity work.
The other night I was watching a segment on ABC about the disaster in Pakistan, it breaks my heart seeing these people who have lost everything, babies are sick and families are hungry. It is heartbreaking seeing a mother losing her baby. We live in a world of consumerism, people wanting bigger TVs and jewellery and fancy clothes and cars and these children don't have food. What is going on with this world? Time to donate money. My Man and I donated money to help bring food and relief to families in Pakistan. I would like to do more. There is something that is definitely resonating for me. It was interesting when I reviewed my Family of Origin and Family Tree last year as part of my Counselling Certificate where I found that there was a Christian Missionary in my Family. If I was younger now and not so keen to start my own Family, I would definitely be travelling to work in third world countries. And for now I will continue to be aware and do what I can in terms of contribution.
My Healer
My Healer
I love My Healer Archetype - a Part of me that I have discovered since becoming a Coach. In My Healer I can hold a Sacred Space with another, totally in my Presence. I feel a Connection Heart to Heart. When I was reading 'The Four-Fold Way' by Angeles Arrien, I loved reading about the Healer "Effective Healers from any culture are those who extend the arms of love: acknowledgement, acceptance, recognition, validation and gratitude." One of my favourite parts of being a Coach is acknowledging my Client's Beauty and Strengths, acknowledging the Light within my Client, seeing my Client's Uniqueness and Greatness. I ask God and the Universe that I can Love and Serve by being a Channel for Divine Energy - in my Coaching, I call on the Power of Spirit and my Angels to help me in my work as a Healer. I feel the message of My Healer is "I Am Here to Heal with My Heart".
Similar to My Sage, it is exciting to move away from a belief that I have to know everything or have everything prepared and organised - instead, I can Trust that I am here to Serve and I can relax in the mystery and spaciousness and Trust I will be filled with Spirit. My Healer energy also moves me away from having to be in my mind and always thinking, or self-conscious of having to get the right words, to a place of genuine, Heart to Heart Connection.
My Regular Gal
In my Regular Gal Archetype I feel that I can easily relax in this Part of me - there is no pressure to play a Role or perform, or try to fit in. It is where I am just one of the Staff at work, or among Friends or Family. In this Part of me I can enjoy a sense of belonging to the group, by being relaxed in my Self. In this place I can stand in a belief that we are all the same - that we are all human, that we are not perfect, that we all have triumphs and we all have pain. This Part of me believes that everyone is of value and deserves to be valued. And I can hold the Paradox that we are all the same and that we all have our own Uniqueness and Greatness. My Regular Gal, My Healer and My Sage can work together with a desire for Connection for the Highest Good.
My Organiser
It has been great for me to Consciously bring My Organiser into the Stage of my life. I have found that I often create clutter in my study and kitchen. I can get enthusiastic and excited and so I bring in paperwork and my "things" and find that I don't always have places for all my "stuff". My Man and I have moved in together and so between us we have combined our "stuff" in a combined Space - and yet this is not a reason or excuse. I also find myself getting stuck sometimes, I organise for a while and then lose momentum. In working with the different Parts of me I found a Sub-Personality that was almost keeping me stuck in the Past, it was the Part of me that was always searching and looking for my Path which would mean that I would continually have paperwork and moving from Project to Project. And then My Sage comes in and guides me to see that I have found my lifework and I can therefore simplify my life and my home. I have been working with My Organiser and I feel that there is so much potential for this Part of me to find a place for everything. I also want to bring in My Organiser to help me with my time management and organising my Priorities - although I definitely want to ensure that there is Space for Spontaneity - just to follow my Heart and go with the flow.
I also feel that My Organiser is very hands on and physically active in getting things "done". I definitely need to bring in the essence of both of these as I organise my study, my superannuation, my Spring clean and my garage sale - projects that are important to me.
In terms of My Organiser I feel that I am moving away from a belief of "I can't" to a new belief of "I can". I always believed that it was my personality type that does create clutter in my home and study - now I am choosing a new belief of "I can choose to get organised and create systems, to create space and simplify". It can be overwhelming as I have a lot to clear and organise - this is when I bring in my Sub-Personality of My Cheerleader. My Cheerleader has been an essential part of me - encouraging and cheering me on - helping me to be motivated and focused for my Goals.
My Destroyer
I feel that My Destroyer has been fairly active in the last 2 years - cutting out of my life what is no longer working for me and no longer serving me. I believe that the energy of My Destroyer will be important in working with My Organiser in some Spring cleaning Projects. My Destroyer can be very Passionate, working with My Warrior and standing up for what is right and what is no longer relevant or outdated. I also ask My Destroyer energy in, when I am looking at maintaining a healthy lifestyle, helping me cut out sugar and chocolate, where I would rather be eating healthy all the time (although not wanting the Perfectionist to rule my world).
My Lover
I have been getting to know My Lover Archetype at different levels - Love of Self, Love of My Man, Love of what I do, Love of All. A few months ago I asked My Sage for some guidance in my relationship. In my Meditation I could see my Future with My Man, a wonderful Future of Love and Ease and Laughter and Dreams coming true. In the Meditation I was also shown an alternate Future, a life shared with a man from the past - in this Future, I saw myself walking through mud, being in hardship, feeling unloved and me trying to get love from him. In this Meditation I also saw that I had stayed in that bad relationship for so long since it brought out my Lover and Goddess Archetype, which had not been Present in me for a long time. I had been so focused on running and living the life of an athlete, and training my Body to be lean and fast, and was strict on myself, that this did not bring out the freedom and joy of being in my Goddess. And so when I rediscovered this Part of Self, I did not want to let this go - and so I continued in a loveless relationship. And then I cut this Part of Self off again, perhaps cutting my hair was an act of letting this go within Self. I am now bringing this Part back in me again.
My Lover loves music and dancing and loves My Man. My Lover is also discovering the joy of doing what I love, doing what has heart and meaning for me (a new belief) - rather than me trying to do something to attract or please others (which is where I spent years living in the Shadow of the Lover). I love Shania Twain's music and she reminds me of My Lover Part of me. In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation, My Lover states "I Am Free, I Am Love". Yes, I love the idea of freedom. I definitely felt My Lover emerge when in a moment we decided to go skinny dipping late one night - I felt so free and it was wonderful to just embrace the moment.
I have been getting to know My Lover Archetype at different levels - Love of Self, Love of My Man, Love of what I do, Love of All. A few months ago I asked My Sage for some guidance in my relationship. In my Meditation I could see my Future with My Man, a wonderful Future of Love and Ease and Laughter and Dreams coming true. In the Meditation I was also shown an alternate Future, a life shared with a man from the past - in this Future, I saw myself walking through mud, being in hardship, feeling unloved and me trying to get love from him. In this Meditation I also saw that I had stayed in that bad relationship for so long since it brought out my Lover and Goddess Archetype, which had not been Present in me for a long time. I had been so focused on running and living the life of an athlete, and training my Body to be lean and fast, and was strict on myself, that this did not bring out the freedom and joy of being in my Goddess. And so when I rediscovered this Part of Self, I did not want to let this go - and so I continued in a loveless relationship. And then I cut this Part of Self off again, perhaps cutting my hair was an act of letting this go within Self. I am now bringing this Part back in me again.
My Lover loves music and dancing and loves My Man. My Lover is also discovering the joy of doing what I love, doing what has heart and meaning for me (a new belief) - rather than me trying to do something to attract or please others (which is where I spent years living in the Shadow of the Lover). I love Shania Twain's music and she reminds me of My Lover Part of me. In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation, My Lover states "I Am Free, I Am Love". Yes, I love the idea of freedom. I definitely felt My Lover emerge when in a moment we decided to go skinny dipping late one night - I felt so free and it was wonderful to just embrace the moment.
And My Lover definitely loves turning off the tv, putting on music and dancing in the living area - life is to be enjoyed, moment to moment. I am enjoying My Lover being present in my life, this is an energetic and enthusiastic part of me.
My Warrior
My Warrior
I look at the Exceptions, when I have been in My Warrior energy. One of the recent examples was last year when I stood up for my Self and ended a relationship that was no longer serving me. I remember feeling so in my Power, feeling so empowered. There was also another time, when I met with a doctor recently to talk about my Coaching Business, and I also felt in My Warrior - communicating with Passion about my Coaching Business. When I am in My Warrior I feel that I communicate with Clarity and Strength. I still have more to learn about My Warrior and yet I believe this energy and Part of me is an excellent Resource for my Journey.
I love reading about the Warrior Archetype in 'The Four-Fold Way' by Angeles Arrien and would like to build and strengthen and access the Universal Powers of "Power of Presence, Power of Communication and Power of Position". I feel Excited that I am now very Present in the NOW. In terms of Power of Communication, this is an area that I would like to develop further in my life - "Skillful communication means we have aligned content, timing and context". "Communication that empowers and inspires us is communication that is delivered at the appropriate time and place for the person involved to hear and receive it." I would like to communicate with more clarity and be succinct, fewer words and making every word count. It's funny I have always thought that I was an Extravert and yet now I feel that I am enjoying a more inner, Introvert world - where I am feeling less need for words and I am enjoying more silence. I find that this is allowing My Warrior to emerge when there are important words to be shared with another. In terms of Power of Position, "The Warrior demonstrates the willingness to take a stand. This is the capacity to let others know where we stand, where we don't stand, what we stand for, and how we stand up for ourselves."
I am still working with this Archetype, wanting to be conscious of not bringing in a Shadow part that may speak from a place of anger or that may challenge another and creates conflict - especially with my Brother or in a difficult work situation. Instead in My Warrior, I want to be able to be assertive and calm in clearly expressing my Truth and allowing others to respond with their Truth.
My Nature Child
I love that My Nature Child Part of me is out in the Light. I have been enjoying this Part of me all year. My Nature Child just loves being out in Nature - I love Walking in the morning, being outdoors, feeling the breeze, listening to the Birds singing, loving the beauty of the flowers, enjoying Connection with Trees. In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Mediation, when this Part of me comes forth, I notice a quietness and I have a sense that this Part of me has a strong Connection with all. My Nature Child loves to come out everyday - the problem is, once My Nature Child is out in the world, My Nature Child does not want to go to work in an office.
My new belief in terms of Nature is that I am in Connection with all, and being in Nature is so important to my well-being, it is not just something that I want to do sometimes - being in Nature daily is vital to me. I am also learning that as I say to God "I am here to serve you today, show me the way", that I am definitely being asked to step up, to show that I am true and authentic. Just last week, as I am starting out for my Nature walk, very excited that I had an hour to enjoy the outdoors, I see a possum being attacked by a crow. There were some workers from the school next door and we thought the possum might be dead. Automatically I went into "save the possum" mode and we worked together as a team to get the possum safely in a box, and ensured the possum was taken to a local vet. I realised that I never quite know where I will be called to service, and I was glad that it came naturally for me, to help rescue the possum.
My Wanderer
I am enjoying My Wanderer Part of me. I feel My Wanderer is closely aligned with My Nature Child, enjoying a sense of wonder and freedom. I love going for my Nature walks in the morning and My Wanderer would be happy to explore all day long. I have a sense of setting off into the world, like a backpacker on a Journey.
And as I am in the NOW of my Journey I feel that there is so much joy, as if I am in a field of Sunflowers.
In My Wanderer I have a sense that I am on this Journey to discover my own individuality. I am no longer the Executive or Manager working in a Corporate office. I am here to live my Purpose to Spread The Yellow. I am here to Connect Heart to Heart through my Coaching. I am inviting My Wanderer more into my life where I can trust my Yin, my Intuition and allow my Yang ACTION to take me forward as I express my Individuality and Uniqueness, and help others to also connect to their own Light and Greatness. I love this image of the Sunflower in the Field of Lavender which captures the essence of my Journey to stand in the sunlight and SHINE as ME.
I am changing my belief, where I would normally need to have the entire plan worked out. I now have a sense that I need to relax and REALLY enjoy My Wanderer more often, allow my Self to enjoy the freedom, where I am no longer restricted by a corporate career and I CAN just relax more, walk more, be in My Wanderer more and just listen for the whispers of my Soul. I can celebrate that I have the opportunity to be in My Wanderer. When I find my Self going into an old pattern of busy, busy, busy, work, work, work, plan, plan, plan - I bring in the opportunity for more space in my day and my life - to allow my Self to be in My Wanderer. The Shadow of this Part of me also believes that I have to keep searching, searching, searching, looking, looking, looking - and yet in the true essence of My Wanderer, I can just enjoy each day and Trust that as I follow my Intuition, this will lead to the Greatest Good for my Self and all.
I know that My Wanderer, My Visionary, My Creator and My Magician can all work together.
My Visionary
When I am out Walking, when I am not caught up in my thinking, I am conscious of allowing Space for My Visionary. A long time ago I possibly believed that I had to think about my Future and think up ideas - now I believe that Vision is not of the mind, that it is of Spirit. Just the other day, when I was out Walking, I had a Vision, the same Vision I have had a few times. It is a Vision that feels so real, where I am lighting candles, one-by-one, and then those people go and light other candles, and then those people go and light candles, and so many people enjoy Light. I look back on my very first Art Therapy from the first year of my Coaching Course and this is the image that I also created on paper. In January this year, in a Meditation, I also had a Vision of me being in a Village, living and working among the community, where I am handing out Yellow pieces of paper. I was also Gifted with the words 'Spread The Yellow' and I have a knowing that this is definitely my Purpose. I feel My Visionary Archetype is around me and I would like to be more in touch with her Inspiration. Most important is to get My Visionary working with My Creator, My Organiser and My Magician.
My Creator
In my Self-Reflection, I am realising that I would like My Creator to be more active in my life. I feel that My Creator is the key to putting my Dreams into ACTION. The essence of My Creator is colour, energy, enthusiasm, Light and bright and active. My Creator is flowing and graceful.
In my Coaching I am here to help my Clients Create A New Story for their lives. And so it is important for me that I am active in Creating My Own Story. I feel that I have the Power within me to write my own Story, not just journaling about the Past or Present - but putting my Vision and Goals down on paper. I want to write an Exciting Story and make this come true for me.
As well as painting the picture, My Creator is also active in putting all of the pieces together to Create the extraordinary artwork of my life, and bring projects alive.
I recently felt My Creator in action when I designed a competition for my Coaching Business, which has been wonderful in connecting with new Clients. I followed my Yin Intuition and my Yang made it happen. In My Creator I definitely want to be maximising the Power of my Yin and Yang to bring my Ideal Life into reality. Every morning I look at my Vision Board that I have Created and yet I also know that I have to take ACTION and allow My Creator to be active in my life. In My Creator Archetype I believe that ALL IS POSSIBLE!!! I have the Power to make my Dreams come true!
My Magician
In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation I am moved to go down a flight of stairs, where I enter a deeper Meditation and through the forest I can see a Light.
In my Coaching I am here to help my Clients Create A New Story for their lives. And so it is important for me that I am active in Creating My Own Story. I feel that I have the Power within me to write my own Story, not just journaling about the Past or Present - but putting my Vision and Goals down on paper. I want to write an Exciting Story and make this come true for me.
As well as painting the picture, My Creator is also active in putting all of the pieces together to Create the extraordinary artwork of my life, and bring projects alive.
I recently felt My Creator in action when I designed a competition for my Coaching Business, which has been wonderful in connecting with new Clients. I followed my Yin Intuition and my Yang made it happen. In My Creator I definitely want to be maximising the Power of my Yin and Yang to bring my Ideal Life into reality. Every morning I look at my Vision Board that I have Created and yet I also know that I have to take ACTION and allow My Creator to be active in my life. In My Creator Archetype I believe that ALL IS POSSIBLE!!! I have the Power to make my Dreams come true!
My Magician
In my 'Gathering of the Whole' Meditation I am moved to go down a flight of stairs, where I enter a deeper Meditation and through the forest I can see a Light.
I have a sense of My Magician - this is another Part of me that I am inviting to play a bigger part in my life. I have a sense of my Magician sending out Yellow bubbles of my Dreams and Intent and trusting that these will Manifest for me. I feel that My Magician is the Part that can become more active in my life - where I am able to activate the power of the 'Law Of Attraction', where I can clarify what I want, and I can send this wish out to the Universe, asking for God and my Angels to help me.
I was very touched recently when a Friend of mine called me 'Magic Girl' and referred a Client to me for Coaching and said that I bring Magic into people's lives. Hearing these words made my heart sing. I definitely want to be more in my Magic.
I am enjoying reading 'Everyday Grace' by Marianne Williamson and I am Inspired by her words "Each of us carries, in the depths of our consciousness, a boxful of mystical tools. And central to our tool kit is the magic wand. A wand is not just stillness from children's literature. Fairy tales are rife with Archetypal truths that teach not only children, but open-minded adults as well, deep and fundamental truths about the nature of our reality. A wand is a medium of power, not just for wizards, but also for you and me. A wand is essentially a principle, an intention, a focused thought. When focused thought is negative, it creates ill. And when focused thought is loving and enlightened, it creates miraculous breakthroughs."
My Jester
My Jester Part of me loves to laugh and have fun. My Jester likes to play, make jokes and be funny. I feel My Jester come out at work and at home, living in the moment and lightening the mood for Family, Friends and colleagues. My Jester loves shaking things up and seeing everyone laughing.
I welcome in My Jester to be more Present in my life. I love that Humor is one of the Coaching Competencies and I am really Excited that my Jester has just started coming forth in my Coaching, very naturally, and creating lightness and brightness during a Session.
My Innocent Child
Today in Meditation I found the energy of My Child - the Innocent part of me. I have read that the Innocent Archetype is a Call for the "desire for purity, goodness and simplicity". As I bring in all My Archetypes I definitely don't want to lose a sense of My Innocence.
I sometimes feel that there is so much to do and so many books to read and so much to do and so many books to read. And then I stop and remember that all of the answers are inside me, that I can just Trust my Self. And then this sounds all so serious - and so I remember to lighten up, be less serious, be playful and have fun. My Innocent Child takes away the Part of me that makes life complicated - and gets me back to simplicity. In the past My Innocent Child may have walked alone - now My Innocent has the backing and protection of all of the other Archetypes - where I am realising to walk only in one Archetype does not serve me or others.
FEELING INSPIRED
I have learnt that each Archetype has a way of being, a posture, a way of moving. I am also conscious that each Archetype has a Shadow Sub-Personality with beliefs that do not serve. Some of my Archetypes have come out of the Shadow and into the Light, and in the Light they have a different way of being, with Empowering beliefs. When they are in the Light I can choose the way they "show up" for me. Now that all of these Parts of me are in the Light, I am wanting them to work together as a Team and help me live a life of Love, Light, Peace, Truth, Service. Every morning I look at my Vision Board and I believe that the Strength and Teamwork of my Archetypes is the key to my Present and my Future.
This experience has been so beneficial to me. It has been so wonderful in helping me learn about the depth of our Being, the Energy and Power that is within us all - that can help us to be Empowered in our lives. I know I have so many Choices in terms of my Internal Focus for Change - I can choose and design my inner experiences and my life. I have found my Strengths and Resources. I can choose what Archetypes to bring on the Stage in my life and I especially love that My Archetypes naturally emerge when I am in my Presence of Love and Light. I have found my Self. I feel Excited and Inspired.
I will continue to enjoy the Opportunity For Self-Reflection on a daily basis, to be a Witness to my Self, as I commit myself to living a life of Love and Service in my Professional and Personal Life.
I am VERY Excited that I can now help my Clients at a deeper level - I can help them get in touch with their own Archetypes, accessing their own Lifetools to Serve them on their own Journeys and bring their own Dreams into reality. I am especially Excited about helping Clients access their Sage, learning to access and Trust their own Inner Knowing. And I love helping my Clients get in touch with their own Creator, allowing them to see their own potential to Create A New Story for their lives. And of course I see that my own experience with My Caregiver, and the huge lessons that I am learning, will allow me to be empathetic and understanding of my Clients and also helpful in looking at the possibilities and opportunities for change. And as I bring in My Magician more and more in my own life, I am hoping this will increase my own confidence in helping activate this Archetype in others.
I have been busy putting together my Toolbox with all of my Coaching Tools, and there are so many Coaching Tools available on so many different areas. Although, I enjoy having all of these Resources available for my Clients, I definitely have a sense that the greatest Resource for me as a Coach is being in My Presence, being in My Yellow Heart and feeling a Heart to Heart Connection with my Clients. And from this Sacred Space of Love and Light, I Trust that My Archetypes (My Inner Toolbox) will naturally emerge in my Role as a Coach.
As a Coach I am Honoured and Passionate about helping my Clients Love Self and Love Life.
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